OK.....

My H and I have been house hunting for the last 2 weeks or so. We are starting to outgrow our current house.

Yesterday we made 4 appts to look at 4 different houses on the same rural raod.

We are going through a Realtor that has numorous agents. I didn't pick a specific one....just called them up and told them what houses I wanted to look at and they set up the times.

We pull into the drive of the first house and the agent is already there....though not out of their vehicle yet. We proceed to get out of our vehicle and we are waiting to the side for all of the girls to get out.

We started walking up toward the house, talking to the girls and asking them if they liked the house....yard....etc. The agent STILL hasn't got out of their vehicle.

The vehicle is parked closer to the house and in front of us so we couldn't tell who was in it...man or woman. We found it odd and a little rude that he/she wasn't getting out to greet us.

We all started walking up the walk way to the house just looking here and there....still waiting for the agent. 6 or 7 minutes go by.....and I was starting to get a little agitated that the agent was being so rude.

After 1o minutes I was REALLY agitated because we only scheduled a half hour for each house we wanted to look at.

So....being the forward person that I am.....I walked toward the SUV that the agent was sitting in.....and to my surprise.....guess who was sitting in it. My H's XOW.

I wish y'all could have seen the look on her face. I've never seen someone so flustered.

Personally I wasn't all that bothered by it. She IS just another person. Just a little surprised because it had been a while since I'd seen her. Probably about a year.

She finally rolled her window down and meekly said hello. I in turn said hello and was getting ready to remind her that we only had a half hour scheduled for each house when she said that she was calling the office to see if someone else would come and show the houses and then rolled her window up.

She looked like a deer with head lights in her eyes.

I turned around and walked back to my H and couldn't help but giggle all the way. I asked him if he really wanted to know who the agent was....he just thought I was messing with him.

I leaned closer so the girls wouldn't hear and told him who it was. He just looked at me like I was nuts. You know....crinkled his forehead and said..."oh...it is not". I said...."yup..and she didn't look happy to see me at her car window"...and giggled some more.

We walked the girls back to our vehicle and told them to get back in because it had started raining and we waited outside our vehicle to see exactly what was going on.

She finally got out of her vehicle and just stood there staring at us. She wouldn't move......so I did.

She looked like she wanted to run....anywhere....just to not have to talk to me. I don't know why...I put a smile on my face....and was very sweet. I swear. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

She said that there were no other agents available and that it would be okay if we wanted to reschedule our appts. I walked by to my H and asked him what he wanted to do. He had already taken off of work early for these appts so we really didn't want to reschedule. We decided that we needed to talk to our oldest daughter because she knew who the OW was....though she hadn't recognized her yet being in the van and all.

We told OD who the agent was and she was so mature about it. She said she didn't have a problem with her being there as long as she stayed in the background. I said...."I don't think that's going to be a problem".

Outside the vehicle again I asked my H if he was really okay with this and he said...."I'm up for it if you are. We'll have to wait another week to see them again if we reschedule. Are YOU sure YOU are okay with this?" I said....."Yup....I promise I will be nice". He just laughed and said...."I know you will....I just wonder if she will survive you being nice to her. She looks like she wants to bolt". I said...."Well....I'll just smother her with niceness". He just laughed. I could tell that he was uncomfortable with the situation so I asked him if he was really okay with it. He said..."I'm really okay with it. I just don't want this to hurt US. I know when I look at her she just looks like someone I once knew.....no feelings either way about it....BUT....I don't want this to cause any ill affects for you". I said...."It won't. I'm not worried about it. So you shouldn't be". He just smiled again and gave me a HUGE hug and a kiss.

We both walked back up to her this time..she was still standing outside her vehicle...and I told her that we would rather not reschedule. She wasn't too happy about that....but agreed to give us a key at each location and let us look around for ourselves.

Everything passed by uneventfully. We really didn't need to ask any questions as we had a flyer for each house that gave us the answers to all of our questions we may have had.

I have to say though...that by then end of our appts the XOW was looking like she might need a Dr....she spent the whole time in her vehicle on her phone.

I'm still giggling about the whole thing.

OMG!
Miss Priss, you were such a class act! I am in awe!
The story is sooooo funny! That XOW just wouldn't be able to see that coming, ever!

Oh boy if that happened to me I don't know what I'd do. What a riot!

MP, that is an incredible story...."of all the gin joints in Casablanca, you walk into mine." You did really well....and so did H and OD...you faced it as a couple and a team...that is awesome. You handled it with strength and grace...a powerful combination. It is a wonderful thing when you don't allow stuff to bother you...including coming face to face with XOW!!!

We are 8 months into recovery and a few weeks ago I had business in the part of town that OW lives. In the early months, I would go there and just wait outside her apt to see if I could see her or FWS and her. So a few weeks ago I was by her street, but I fought the urge to go there so how it dissolved my need to do that anymore. It is like once you pass certain trials, you conquer that trigger. I would say you and your family passed a major one today. You don't need to let that ugliness hurt you anymore.

Funny story and good job....

I really admire your ability to handle that situation like you did.

You said:



On my chance encounters with the FOW she has looked just like this..

I can't help but wonder, though, what that look is all about?

Do you believe that events happen for a reason? This sounds like sort of a blessing, as in closure, for your family....

Starting a new life....in a new house....without concerns of her tainting this for you......

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!

That was the most incredible story!!!
Thank you for sharing...
you are a class act for sure!!!
Karma!!! I love it!!!

ummm...can't wait for my day we OW...bring it on!!!

I was giggling yesterday about the sitch with the XOW.

Didn't think about it much. Just for a sec here or there.

My H came home and we had an appt to take our new Boxer puppy to the vet for his shots, so we did that. Came home and he helped me make supper and we were going to go driving around looking at properties on our own to get more of an idea what neighborhood, etc that was good/not good.

Well...things went all to hell after supper.

Our poor little puppy (Tucker) had a BAD reaction to the shots they gave him. Poor little guys eyes were almost swollen shut and he had hives all over him. He couldn't sit still because it was bothering him so bad. He just kept running from room to room whining. Of course I didn't know at the time that it was a reaction to the shots.....I'd never seen a dog have THAT kind of reaction.

I had to have the Vet paged and he confirmed the bad reaction...and told us to get some Benedryl and give him a 25 mg tablet.

Our 2 youngest daughters got so freaked out by the sight of him that they ran next door and told their grandparents that they just couldn't be around him....he looked like a monster. They couldn't stay away though. We've only had him for about 5 weeks now but they are already so attached to the little bundle of energy....my H and I are also.

Anyway....my H ran to get the medicine...which I will always have on hand now and we gave it to him. No problem...it sure didn't affect his appetite.

About an hour later he was pretty much back to his old self. His eyes were getting better and the hives were diminishing....he wasn't whining or running around the house anymore. He finally went to sleep.

Sorry to go on and on about that.....let me get to the reason for my anger.

About 8:30 last night our phone rang. It came up on our caller ID as a Private Name, Private Number. I don't normally answer it when it comes up like that.....but I did this time thinking that it might be the Vet calling back to check on Tucker. It wasn't the Vet.

It was XOW.

She called me Mrs. *******. NOBODY calls me that. Not even my daughters' friends. They all call me Heather...or Mom.

She said that she calling to let us know that she wouldn't be showing us any more properties. Um....DUH!

I asked her how she got our #, since it was unlisted and she said she pulled our file up at the agents office.

I said....."Well...that's nice...but you didn't have to call. I have already taken care of it and if you would have checked your messages at the office you would have already known that. Unless you just felt the need to call me.

She then wanted to know what reason I gave the agents office for not wanting her to show us properties. I guess she was worried that I had bashed her and possibly ruined her reputation. Well...I could have.....but I didn't.

I told her that it really wasn't any of her business, but she didn't have to worry. I said nothing negative....which I didn't.

She said thank you....and then.....she actually wanted to have a non businesslike talk with me.....small talk.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I couldn't believe it. She was actually asking how my H and I were doing...and the girls.

I told her that it wasn't any of her business.....but we are doing great....all of us. We couldn't be happier.

I then told her that there was no need to call me in the first place and that I would take any other calls from her as harrassment and act accordingly. First by calling the agents office and then by filing a report with the police.

I told her that I wasn't trying to be a [censored] about the whole thing but that she was a part of the past that was better left behind. Seeing her and having to talk to her had no affects on me at all and I planned to keep it that way.

She meekly said that she understood and said that she wished all the best to our family and said goodbye.

My H had just sat there that whole time whith house mouth opne and a dumbfounded look on his face. When I hung up he started laughing and said....man she's a head case huh?

I just laughed and said.....yup.

Now I'm not angry at anyone.....just the situation.

Sometimes you're the windshield and sometimes you're the bug....ya know.

Miss Priss,
I loved reading this story. I am seven months into recovery and i get nervous of running into the OW. I don't even know what she looks like.I just know she has nothing on me. I think she would come up on purpose just to start trouble.I had to change my phone number because her H liked to call to see if i knew about something he just found out.I think hes mad because we are doing so well.I come to realize what i know is enough. My H was wrong and he knows
it. He loves me.I just hope this OW stays out of your life. Not to worry you seem like a very strong person. By the way i hope your dog is doing better.

MOM

#1mom,

Kill 'em with sweetness.

Smile...makes people wonder what you're up to.

That's what I go on. It does work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

And yes..thank you....Tucker is MUCH better this morning.

Yay! The puppy is better!

And, you handled the call wonderfully! I understand you'd be mad that the XOW called your home, I would too, she didn't have to do it at all, but she did it anyway, guess she just was so bothered by the whole thing she sat stewing all day long about it making herself insane, so she broke and she just had to call.

Just forget about it, you and your family did a wonderful job and came out on top.

Wow this story was great! I run into my WHs OW (well according to him, she is his 'friend'...but we all know the deal) at least once a week. The last time I saw her, she was behind me in line at the quick stop. You can see her shake and look like she is going to jump out of her skin. I have the urge to say 'what is the problem here? It's not as though *I* have done something to YOUR life that makes you afraid of me! I am not sleeping with YOUR husband!' I don't say anything, but I do admit she freaks me out.
You handled this beyond my comprehension! Way to go!
Danielle

Miss Priss,
Sounds like OW was checking to see what you told her superiors about your connection.

You are truly a class act...

MP,

I am so inspired by your story...you've raised the benchmark in class & grace under pressure!!!

Bravo!!!!!!!!!1

MP,

Love your story. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Wishing happy house hunting!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Btw if you knock off an OW or 2 with your wile ways well.....that w/b ok 2!!! U R 1 class act!!

Aloha,
L.