Hello all, I am back again living my old life after a year abroad.
Quick update:
I went overseas for the whole of 2004.
Returned to my country Jan 2005.
Divorce was final 6 June 2005.
Discovered shortly before this that my best friend (DS) (a single female whom I shared a house with) and another friend (BB) had been "seeing each other" for about a year. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> In DS's words, she was having an affair with BB and wanted him to leave his partner. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
This news made me feel utterly betrayed. For BOTH of these people to be involved in an affair, given that they knew me and my situation well, was too close to home for me.
Basically, I have cut them both out of my life.
I was handling the situation until the point when DS started badmouthing BB's partner - whom she has never met. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I asked DS to move out and haven't spoken to her since.
I met with BB and told him that I knew about the affair, told him i thought it was wrong and he needed to choose one woman. I have been in no contact with him since.
Even thinking about these people makes me feel angry, particularly DS as she was living in my house, using my appliances and furniture, all the while cheating with BB. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
There are two things that I need guidance on:
1. What would you do given the same circumstances?
2. Does the extent of my reaction (anger) indicate that I am still not really over the original betrayal?<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Claire
(For those of you who don't know me, I am 31, divorced, ex BS)
