Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
| Tax-deductible Donation | Site Tour | Meet Dr. Harley | Basic Concepts | Q&A Columns | Articles | Guidance Forum

Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Forums Calendar Active Threads
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
and another thing..I noticed this behavior about myself...wishing attention from other men
#1425715 07/14/05 07:18 PM
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 183
W
whattagirl
Offline
Member
whattagirl
Member
W Offline
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 183
Now I am realizing what a dangerous thing this is. What do I do about it? I do not want to fall into the same trap. I realize I probably stayed safe because of my lack of opportunity and obligation with the kids and such.

Now, I find myself driving and wishing to be noticed by the man driver in the car next to me, and I often drum up thoughts about men I know. I have always done this but never realized the danger. I hold by strict personal rules, never alone with another man, never talk with men privately with rare exception...on the phone with the pastor/counselor. when I E the A to wh's best wisest friend, I asked his wife to be there. Never email with men, ever.

i'm not sure what I should do about that. Should I tell my returning to normal husband?

pretty confused
Re: and another thing..I noticed this behavior about myself...wishing attention from other men
whattagirl #1425716 07/14/05 08:11 PM
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985
Likes: 1
Texas
M
MelodyLane Offline
Member
MelodyLane
Member
M Offline
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985
Likes: 1
Texas
No, I wouldn't tell him - they are just thoughts. You are aware of the problem and wouldn't act on it. I remember going through this after my H's affair, but it wears off after your spouse starts meeting your needs.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101

Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 299 guests, and 97 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
duocbinhdong, RonBrown, leorasy, jonathanhans, billy gaits
72,052 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Annulment reconsideration help
by RonBrown - 08/21/25 11:27 PM
Three Times A Charm
by leorasy - 08/20/25 12:00 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,527
Members72,052
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
Forum Rules · Mark All Read Contact Us · Forum Help · Marriage Builders
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Feedback | Terms and Conditions | Privacy Policy | Contact Us | Site Map | Account
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0