Lot's has happened in the last while since I last posted. WH sent kids to grandparents for what was supposed to be his time with them, then brought the OW up from Pheonix to his place (2 blocks away from me!)He has plans also to go in August to see her during what was supposed to be part of his time with the kids again!

His parents and siblings and family have voiced their support of me and the kids to me recently. This was good to hear as I was not sure of their feelings on the issues surrounding meeting the OW. WH is trying to legitimize the OW by getting the family to meet her. All have voiced in no uncertain terms that that is not okay!

WH wants me to put the children into councelling. In our sep agreement, I said we agreed that no intros would happen at all unless the kids had the counselling after 6 months separation. Well here we are just past 6 months and he is trying to push her into our world!

I have stated that he can do as he wishes with his own personal life but that she will never be welcome in our world! He says she may not be welcome but she will be included! The kids do not want to meet her and I think their wishes should be respected.

I am so unnerved that he brought her into my neighbourhood.I feel like I can't walk down my own street without having the chance of running into them! I saw them at a distance in his car and it sent me realing for a few days!

Will he ever see what he has done? His family has spoken the almost identical words to him that I have and he is so involved he thinks it is all me poisoning their minds.I have only spoken to them 2 times since he left. THey say I am still family and they will not accept her or what he has done!
He is meglecting his kids and I can't do anything about it! Do they see eventually?

If your WH is anything like my WH, it's always your fault. And of course, everyone around him, his family, kids and neighbors have absolutely no intelligence and there is no way they could make their own opinion about things. Obviously, you've poisoned their minds. My thought is that your kids should voice their opinions. Not that WH would ever hear but they should feel like they have some power. My DD11 has boldly stated that if her dad ever tries to introduce her to OW, she'll give her a big kick in the shins. Maybe we'll go looking for steel-toed boots.

Walk through your community with your head raised high. You are not the one in the gutter. Maybe these WS finally get it when they are old, all alone and nobody in the family wants to visit them.