Things have been going pretty well, actually. For about the last 2+ weeks, WH has spent the night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> He has been very much a part of the family again (mowing lawn, fixing up stuff, playing & being with the kids). We're trying to take things one day at a time. He's not moved back in yet, but hopefully it will be soon.

Fire away with whatever questions or warnings!!

-Christine

It's great to hear from you!

So fill in the blanks....

How did it get to this?

Mimi,

I almost forgot how painful it is to be in here. Emotionally, I am in a much better place. Don't get me wrong MB was and is a great source of information and support, but just reading others posts it can easily drum up feelings I went through not so very long ago.

It's been a slow road, and I never fully went into plan B, so it wasn't a plan B at all. WH gave up on OP because she couldn't/wouldn't commit to him. All words and no actions. As I had said before, she had a fiancee (and come to find out my WH wasn't the only OP she was with!!!). NASTY !! As a side note, I did have a full physical and I am healthy and disease free (WH did the same).

Anyway, WH slowly started coming over more and doing more with and for the family. We've been having great SF and he's spent way more nights in our bed than away from it. He still has all his stuff in the room he's been renting, but we're talking about him moving back in. As of this weekend, each of us is wearing our rings again.

It is not a perfect situation, however, because they still work at the same company. He's been interviewing his butt off, plus there's issues with the company's financial stability, so she may be let go. He is very accountable with his time, e-mail, and cell/text usage. There has also not been a NC letter given to her. I want one, he insists he doesn't need it (says she's not a part of his personal life any longer & none of her business that we're trying to reconcile).

So, I am still cautious and don't quite see us as being in recovery yet. You can fire back with your precautions, I already know and keep myself guarded with him anyway. He is laying in bed with me 95% of the nights, we talk all throughout the day, and he has been affectionate and more emotionally accessibe with me than he has in months (from the very begining I was shut out of everything - stereo types and alien body snatcher analogies aside, he never gave me any of these things during the A (when it was PA or EA). So, with that I am confident that he is truthful.

Tell me what you think.

-Christine

^ for Mimi

Christine:

I've got to run now but will post to you later on this weekend.

Sounds great....