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that was some how added- not sure how. I deleted it now. sorry

Hm. I'm sorry he's had his feelings hurt. KMEJ, whose abuse/infidelity was causing you suffering when you began posting here?

He is the creator of the pain he's feeling now. Nothing you did made him cheat, and nothing you did made him beat up on you. What's inside him, and what's missing inside him, made him do those things, and has led to the suffering he's experiencing over reading the discussions about him at MB.

I'm sorry he's hurt. I hope he's hurt enough to trace that pain back to its source.

GC

So, he cheated, verbally and mentally abused you, phsically assaulted you, covers his face to have sex with you and he has the nerve to say you hurt his feelings?

Im sorry KMEJ. You are not the bad guy here, he is.

Mr KMEJ, I hope you understand what you are doing to your family, to your sons everytime you disrespect, assault and abuse their Mother. Please get help.

(((KMEJ)))

If your husband is remorsful, I hope you will Both go to MC together. I'm sure you've both made mistakes. Any kind of abuse on both your parts is a priority. Counselors have heard it all, if you go and be completely honest, and follow his/her advice, there is hope there. I really wish you both the best.

How did you hurt him? Did you spead lies about him? Or, in reality, did his actions hurt himself or bruise his pride/ego?



Then start by looking at what you shouldn't do. You shouldn't through away one of the best marriage tools available, this site. You shouldn't be belitted. You shouldn't be beaten. YOU SHOULDN'T BE ISOLATED.



KMEJ & Hubby, this site is not your problem. It exists only to help your problems. They won't go away without facing them.

KMEJ's Hubby, I can understand your hurt, pain, confusion, and embarassment. We all screw up buddy but how we fix our errors is what defines us. That being said, there are many here who have done terrible things only now they are here working on doing great things with their marriages. We ain't here to throw rocks at you, of course if your behavior is poor, we might smack ya with a 2x4.

KMEJ, I ain't posted to you much but have distantly followed your story and all I can say is don't leave. Don't hide in isolation. Stay. Please stay. Continue to get support and help for you and your family.

Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers

Let me add a little to what Bill said above....

Isolation is one of the main tools used by an abuser. To me, telling you that what you said on this site hurt him, in light of what he has done to you, is a technique to try and get you more isolated again.

Do a little reading on verbal and emotional abuse. Do a little reading on physical abuse. Please!

Hey K, long time no see? im sorry to hear about this latest turn of events. Mr. K, instead of letting your hurt feelings and pride stand in your way, learn how to meet your wifes needs. you dont have to lose your family. K is a very beautiful and smart young lady, your children are beautiful. do you really want to give all that up? sending you my love K.

Thanks to all of you for your encouragement. I think I will stay around here, for support and to keep myself going in the right direction. You all have been such an asset to me. Thank you.

WS' don't hurt. Xws' can hurt. H's absorb the pain.

Mine said similar. He even wanted me to stop posting. I said sure, when you meet my needs. Hm.... didn't that speak volumes.

Now H understands why I post and supports me. He even says you all @ MB may know more about us than he does. LOL!!! Just kidding on his part ya know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Tell your H you know he is hurt and you are still hurting. Then ask, what is he going t/d about it?

No more taking his burden on your shoulders. Ok?

L.

okay- please go read my other post, I am in shock right now. I need guidence badly!

I just posted. Let me know if you want to talk. I am home tonight....cleaning house and making dinner. Interruptions welcomed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

I do not know what to do. I could use to talk.

e-mail me at [email]mborchid2@yahoo.com.[/email] Will give phone# there.

L.

Mr KMEJ

So you have been reading here.

Have you read stories of how other husbands love their wives enough to fight for them even when they stray ?

How they cherish their wives ?

How they love them and thank God for them ?

How they respect them as mothers of their children ?

How they do not offer violence to them even in the face of infidelity ?

Are such men PUSSIES Mr KMEJ ? Do beatches need a slap to keep 'em keen now and again ?

You might notice if you study here that you re pretty much the only deliberately abusive husband here, and this is a forum for broken marriages.

You have systematically rendered KMEJ incapable of independent thought and any notion of self worth.

If that's your intention, well done, big man. You have broken the mother of your children. She fears you. Way to go.

If you are so far gone that your behaviour seems normal to you, then even this message will mean nothing to you.

If theres a shred of decency and sanity left within you PLEASE reach out and get help for yourself and/or let KMEJ go without further abuse.

You're behaving like a low dog, sir IMO. Please rediscover your honour and start treating KMEJ honorably.

His feelings are hurt?? Are you serious. Tell him to grow up and defend his actions if he can. If his feelings are hurt, he can start by apologizing to you for what he's done to you. We don't know real names or locations here, so there is a cloak of security in anonimity. We guys can counsel him in a loving but direct manner. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

KMEJ,

Your situation is not unique. It's textbook. I have shared before with you my experiences as a battered wife. I don't know why YOU stay, but I know why I did.

Because he designed his abuse in such a manner that I would be less likely to leave.

He isolated me so I would have no outside help or confidence in myself. He isolated me so that he could shift my boundaries. I began to accept "abnormal" behaviors as "normal" because I continued to accept them and they then became the norm for me. It was only after I got away from the situation that I truly saw the decline I took in what I would accept and how I allowed him to shift my boundaries.

I stayed because leaving was scary. At least if I stayed, I knew what to expect. You know what to expect, too. You know it isn't going to change.

You have power. He has convinced you that you don't, but you do. I challenge you to think about your boundaries and what you will accept. How have your boundaries changed?

I also posted on your other thread........hopefully not too harshly........sorry, was a little angry at the situation last night!

Here Here, Bob Pure! Well put. KMEJ, please read that post 1,000 times, and then show it to your H!

Frozen....add another 'non unique' situation in. That is how my M worked as well. Textbook. And when I finally realized what it was, I had to set my own boundaries. And I had to enforce them.

In my case, it led to D, (which I won't lie, is harder than HE**) but I am recovered and happy now. Probably more happy than I have been in the past 6 years of my life.

I can be ME again! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

KMEJ, please don't let all of this advise just roll off your back. Let it sink in. And if you REALLY want to improve your M, use it.

Orchid I tried to e-mail you however it said the addie is not right <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />