My so called best friend started an affair with a mm last
year when the two of us started a new job.She was married as well but has since left her husband,she is also seeing a single man.I never helped her cover anything or lie to her husband but it caused problems for me and my husband as he is a fws.

She called last night and said he was going to file for divorce and try to take the kids, what a joke! Shes the one
taking care of them when hes off with his gf. I think his wife has a right to know but im not sure how much to tell her.I know it's going to hurt regardless of how she finds out and I wish I could soften the blow.Please tell me how much information to give her and how I can say it or if I
should keep quiet.

Sorry this is short but my husbands rushing me to go eat.

Thank you all in advance.

Give her ALL the information. She has a RIGHT to any and all information about her own life.

i agree with Melody.

Your friend will probably be very angry with you - but doing the right thing and being a moral person is the better road to take.

Thank you MelodyLane and deeplysorry,I appreciate the
help on this, I just don't want his wife to think i'm doing this out of revenge for my friend because at one point she
asked me to call his wife and I refused. This man is going to leave his wife and kids for her and shes having unprotected sex with 3 men.


As far as my friend goes, I have told her for months I hate what shes doing,shes one of the many reasons I finally quit
the job.We had to stay out of town so much they rented us a room to share and her and this man would have sex while I was trying to get my work finished. When my husband came there we would get our own room because having sex with an audience is disgusting to us.

I told my boss what was going on and he laughed it off and
just told her to rent a house in that city so she left her husband and got an apartment.My boss mans boss called me up
after I quit and I also told him and he investigated it and
fired her and my boss.She lost her job, her car and now is going to have to move in with her parents. She called me last night asking me for a ride to her apartment which is an hour and a half away.I wouldnt do that either.

I have looked up phone numbers for their state and am pretty sure I have the right names.When I call,should I tell her my name and that I think she needs to know this? You see,the ow called me and told me about my husband and she was so mean about it,it was devastating and I dont
want to be like that.

Do I tell her they are suppose to meet tonight or just give her ows name and or number ,tell her to check his cell phone. I dont know the name of the apartments because I was only there one time but I do know his wife has global tracking in her vehicle because I have it too but havent ever used it and S would say if his wife had a brain she could find him when he drives her car.She is looking for an attorney for him and he wants her to help him take the kids away and help him raise the kids when she doesnt even have any kids or any clue about them.

Sorry for going on and on but the more I'm thinkin
the madder i'm gettin.

Thanks again.

Do I tell her they are suppose to meet tonight or just give her ows name and or number ,tell her to check his cell phone.

Please tell her all of the above. You would want the same, wouldn't you.?

I would tell her everything. You are a good person to care enough to warn her.

Thank you ML and Viv
I'm going to tell her everything.The only reason I didnt
before was that we live in the south and the place where the mm lives is even more southern and we dont always pronounce our words like they are meant to be.We might add letters or subtract letters just whatever suits us.I didnt know how to spell his last name, when they say it, it sounds like fishguts,well theres no fish or guts in his actual name and believe me,I felt like an idiot when I saw what it was. How they got fishguts out of that is beyond me.
I do call him that now though when she talks about him.

have a great day!

Well I called his wife.She was so sweet and I felt so bad,
I let her ask the questions and told her what I know and gave her the name of another person that is willing to help too.

I'ts heart breaking you know? I know how she feels.She also
asked me if the ow was drop dead gorgeous,same thing I thought about my husbands ow.I told her no and that in fact she wasn't even cute and has a loud rude mouth.

My so called friend has been calling here for 3 hours.She's
stuck at the apartment there with no way home LOL. I have nothing to say to her at this time.I guess fishguts couldnt
get away to pick her up.

Let me get this straight....

Your GF (former coworker) is a WS having an A with a single guy of which she left her family for, her H then turned into a WS and you went and told who?

L.

Orchid,
my xfriend was having an affair with a mm.I told his wife .