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My H left the computer up, and when I got home it was on a sexsearch.com and he has been posting on there [color:"red"]WITh MY PICTURE!!!!!!!!! [/color] I am appaulled, insulted, hurt to name just a few feelings I have at the moment. HE has my picture on there and is advertiseing that I am looking for sex!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I am sure he is doing it out of fun and thinks it is a joke, but my head is spinning right now. He is downstairs with his buddy, and I have no clue how to respond to this. I have read only a few of the e-mails that "I" am sending. I am rather sick at the moment. My Senior picture from 10 years ago is on there, but it is still me. What do I do with this one???
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I just read more, apparently he is trying to get someone to come have a threeway with us... or something. Joke or not that is my picture!!!!
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Call him away from his 'buddy' and let him know someone has 'invaded your computer' and you are very upset. Say it in front of his 'buddy'that way. His buddy will wonder what is going on and the WS will have to explain himself. Then go get to a safe place with pillows so you can punch them w/o hurting yourself.
Hugz,
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I think his buddy is doing it with him. This is so wrong.
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Don't think, just expose it. You know the drill. Same method different shichtz.
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I wasnt going to log on, but damn K! I agree with Orchid, call him away and ask him whats up with that?! I think I'd kill my H if he dared do something like that. I really hope its just a joke and not serious. post back.
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I am so upset right now. I need to calm down.
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Im sorry but him and his buddy are seriously immature! confront him. well calm down first, then confront him.
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Tell him if he and idiot boy want to play silly games then use somebody elses pic, you are the mother of his children.
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KMEJ,
That behavior is completely inappropriate. It would be a different story with your permission or agreement. But it is not. That is NOT how a man honors his wife.
Evaluate your personal safety. Evaluate his reaction if you confront him. And if it TRULY is the problem you say, you must confront him about it. If you don't, it will just fester in you and you will take it out in other ways. Don't go there. Put your chips on the table and tell him what will and will not fly.
We do this kind of stuff in business every day - defining boundaries of a relationship. It is not new, and should not be a problem for him. If it is, well, you have learned something.
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Your H needs help KMEJ. He spends way too many brain cycles working out new ways to humiliate you for it to be even nearly healthy.
You need to protect yourself. Say he brings home a threesome buddy tonight, drunk.
What you gonna do KMEJ ? You don't know how to say no to him.
Then a foursome.
Then a bondage crew
Then what.. ?
You'll go with it hoping meekly that you will be making him happy.
How bad has it got to get before you leave this monster KMEJ ?
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this is not okay with me. You are right if it was with my permission then fine, but he did not even tell me he was doing this. Makes me think he is looking for another Affair. I know he believes I want out. What I want is respect, and this is no way to show that.
KMEJ
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K you cant let him get away with this, conflict avoidance aside, that is sooo disrespectful.
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Let me be clear on this...
If he gives you the ol' "other guys do it.."
WE DON'T. It is horrid behavior and he is assuming way too much.
You are correct in calming down, first. Calm down. Come up with a plan, execute it. Think safe.
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I just looked up the dates, and he has been doing this for several days now, this did not start tonight. I think I am going to be sick. Even as a joke. I am sure he is going to say it is no big deal, all in fun what not, but I am not okay with this.
KMEJ
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K you cant let him get away with this, conflict avoidance aside, that is sooo disrespectful. Shelly is on the verge of going over there and beating up your H. I can hear it in her post. LOL!!! Now K, calm down and lets help you put a plan together. He is past disrespectful. L.
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what do I say?
H I am not sure what you were thinking when you started this, however I am not okay with it, and demand that it be deleted? What happens then? He will continue to post but be sure that it not be left on?
KMEJ
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Of COURSE your not okay with that! who in their right mind would be? If he says "its all in fun" tell him your going to post his pic on a gay male bondage site and see what he says to that!
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
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Call me. Did you send me your e-mail addy yet?
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Very funny orchid <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> im not nearly as violent as i used to be, LOL
me31
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