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Re: patterns weaver #1426671 07/18/05 07:33 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	That's nice of you to say, Mimi! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I think of a nurturing person as one who says nice, sweet words to people. To me, that is a collosal waste of air! When I see people whining, I don't want to sooth them, I want to SMACK them and say QUIT YER CRYING!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> But Mimi, I don't remember you EVER being whiny! You were very action oriented and strategic. You took in everything we said and went out and acted on it. You were an amazing quick study. You immediately "got it." "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: patterns MelodyLane #1426672 07/18/05 07:38 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Mimi whined with the best of 'em but she did not ONLY whine she worked her butt off even when the dawn looked like it was a long ways away there's the difference! Last edited by Pepperband; 07/18/05 07:39 PM. LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: patterns Pepperband #1426673 07/18/05 07:55 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Mimi whined?? I don't remember that at all! I remember her taking the ball and running with it. I thought she showed amazing courage and very little self pity in a nightmarish situation. I was very proud of her. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: patterns MelodyLane #1426674 07/18/05 10:33 PM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,179 L lemonman Member
lemonman Member L Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,179	Nurturerer...........Nurturerer....I see no nurturer here. What way did he go so I can get a whack at him with this new 2 X 4 I picked on in an ebay auction. Sour Male, MD Nurturing Specialty Services 134 Soothe lane Sunshine City, Florida Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it. I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.

Re: patterns MelodyLane #1426675 07/18/05 10:35 PM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,179 L lemonman Member
lemonman Member L Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,179	Quote But Mimi, I don't remember you EVER being whiny! Mimi, don't worry babe, I still clearly remmeber when you were whiny. I qwon't forget, so don't worry that Mel can't remember. I can always remind her if she needs be......................JOKE people joke.....lets lightn it up. Sour Male, MD Nurturing Specialty Services 134 Soothe lane Sunshine City, Florida Last edited by lemonman; 07/18/05 10:35 PM. Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it. I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.

Re: patterns lemonman #1426676 07/18/05 10:38 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Quote Nurturerer...........Nurturerer....I see no nurturer here. What way did he go so I can get a whack at him with this new 2 X 4 I picked on in an ebay auction. Sour Male, MD Nurturing Specialty Services 134 Soothe lane Sunshine City, Florida lol Somehow I fear that destitution will be a way of life for you! Nurturing Specialty Services, indeed. hahahaa <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: patterns Pepperband #1426677 07/19/05 07:10 AM
Joined: Dec 2001 Posts: 2,262 L LowOrbit Member
LowOrbit Member L Joined: Dec 2001 Posts: 2,262	Ok, Pep...here's a pattern for ya... WS (Low) come to MB wanting help with withdrawal> MB responds with some sage advice and warnings about consequences of not heeding> WS (Low) responds with "You guys are awful and wrong. You suck"> --- WS experiences consequences of not heeding ---> WS return to MB - "Ok, so maybe you were right" > Gets more MB advice> WS (Low) responds with "You guys are awful and wrong. You suck"> etc... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Re: patterns LowOrbit #1426678 07/19/05 07:44 AM
Joined: Dec 1969 Posts: 3,073 S Susan Member
Susan Member S Joined: Dec 1969 Posts: 3,073	Quote WS (Low) responds with "You guys are awful and wrong. You suck"> Because your situation was different? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail. ~ Kinky Friedman

Re: patterns Susan #1426679 07/19/05 07:53 AM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Low, you are too damn funny! snort "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: patterns LowOrbit #1426680 07/19/05 08:21 AM
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 596 K Ktulu_dup1 Member
Ktulu_dup1 Member K Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 596	Reflective & objective observation is awesome at times. It's irksome at others. Why bother????? mmmmmmmmm I came here for help......aka personal drama... toooo unaware HOW TO reach my goal. Realised pretty quickly there are two types here those that are stuck & those that have grown beyond the moments. Made a choice to grow. Looked for directions. Checked into Recovery, looked up 'success'. Got 'em. Lost 'em. Encountered self induced made drama. Someone labeled for me (thanks). Those beautiful words "Only you control yourself" & "Only you can be a victim by allowing yourself be treated as one". Was validated here, it was so great to see the words NORMAL. It was a relief. Looked again. Could sense others rollin their eyes, didn't care in the mo., needed REITERATION, UNINVOLVED OBSERVATION, CLEAR DIRECTION, & A KICK START, AND/OR KICK IN THE [censored]. My faults were pointed out to me quickly. How to address my WTF came a few weeks later. Took a looooonnnng while to sink in. Almost had to become mantra like for my numbed sense of injustice to absorb & actually activiate. I felt at times there were specific people here that I could trust their judgements then realised rather disappointedly that God doesn't really post here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Moved along rapidly once knew what I was really doing for & to myself, & thus affected those around me. Now I post when I feel I have something to offer be it a learning curve for me or a experience that can help someone be healthier. What's in it for me? Fame & Fortune <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> A kind of kinship, where I can discuss, learn & share with others, even vent frustrations comfortably. So back to patterns. What's that like huh???? My patterns changing I guess, I used to love demask, now it's glaring girlie pink. I hate paisley, plaids 'cept of course burberry - could I be a chav? eh <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> What's my real motive - after I've got what I need ie help or insight or resolution to a prob..... If I admit it NO one will ever speak to me again.....aggghhhh.....burn time!!!! yikes I'm supposed to be working or living productively in the real world <hand over mouth in shock, at my own melodramatic admissions>>>> how could i???? Packing my case to get the fk out here, oh chit, my samsonites plain navy, no distinctive patterns at all, gonna have to go for some louis V bags. Suggs anyone <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> M 85 Kids Dbl Life 91-03 I(bs)woke up Dec-04 Finally felt I could put my feet on the ground Dec-05 A goal is a one-time thing. A standard is a constant What Loving Detachment, True Intimacy & Enmeshment are

Re: patterns Susan #1426681 07/19/05 08:41 AM
Joined: Dec 2001 Posts: 2,262 L LowOrbit Member
LowOrbit Member L Joined: Dec 2001 Posts: 2,262	Why, Susan! Of course, my situation was special. You should know by now that uniqueness is a common quality to all affairs... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Re: patterns LowOrbit #1426682 07/19/05 12:55 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 2,251 Drive-by poster from another w... J Just J Member
Just J Member J Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 2,251 Drive-by poster from another w...	For those looking for more information on the emminent Dr. Buckaroo Banzai, I direct you to this informative interview with him which is posted on the Banzai Institue web site. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away... Just J --

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