Okay, quick run down of my situation. My H cheated on me last month, I found out confronted him. I am willing to give this marriage another shot at it, im very optimistic about things. Here is a few things he wrote to my parents:

Its long but I just wanted to know what some ppl thought of it. Do i think Ronaile should stay with me? NO, but if she will i will do everything to make sure this NEVER happens again. Do you think i still deserve your daughter? NO, if the roles were reversed i dont think i would have been so forgiving. I hope that in her forgiving but obviously never forgetting shows there is something good in me, something worth fighting for. Ronaile always gave and i always took. That led me to thinking "the grass is greener on the other side," It only took on mistake, a handful of hurtful words and one broken hearted woman to make me see howmuch of an [censored] i am. But still, after that she tells me she loves me. She finds the good in me and i will NEVER find someone who loves me as much as your daughter. Turns out the grass is greener on the other side of the fence and over there is my wife and kids. I've been the one of other side for far far to long not realizing that what I am looking at is a happy marriage, a happy family. I spent too long dreaming of what could have been or what could be, and not enough time in reality, realizing I have an amazing wife to come home to each night.I am very sorry and humbly ask for your forgiveness. An [censored]

I didnt ask him to write my parents this letter. We are young and my parents think great things of him. Yes, they are very upset at him but also bc they see how upset that I am. It took him alot to sit down and write me this letter. He is currently over in Iraq and wont be home for another 4-5 months. I have gotten myself into consueling through the military and he has gotten himself into it as well.

I think this is a wonderful letter your H sent to your parents... This letter shows a man who is responsible for his own actions.

I hope this M works out for you. Both of you deserve a chance to work together.

best wishes~~~

PS

if his attitude stays like this

he's a definite "keeper"

Ronaile,

That letter is a very cool, gutsy thing to do. I admire him for doing that. It shows character and responsibility.

Actions speak louder than words, but that letter is a good start.

k

Ditto to this above. A Wayward who has the guts to do this FIRST without coercion is someone you CAN potentially trust again. Many Waywards talk the talk, but NEVER back it up.

I wanna thank you all for your positive responses. Now he just has to show it instead of writing it. I am sure that when he comes home he will do this. He has the next 4-5 months to begin thinking of ways. We are going to see a MC when he gets home but for me i am going to indiviual consueling. I think that it will help get me started and he has begun that as well. Thanks all for your imput!