...the walrus said...

Posted this on GQ, but you all were my friends from the first. KT - this is what I was referring to "needing help" with when I emailed you.

Wookie has decided to NOT continue contact with OC(dren).

After reading on the pg boards, I cannot say I am surprised at the outcome. It would be one thing if OW was completely sane, kind hearted and had EVERYONE'S best interest at heart. But she has derided him and us at every turn...to the point of dreading the babes visits just because of having to deal with her.

So today is my last time with the babies in my arms. I love them so much. The little guy called me "mommy" for the first time today. He is sitting in my lap as I type this, avidly trying to see why my fingers are flying so quickly.

Older of our OC is playing dress up with dd. I painted all our (the girls) toenails bubblegum pink today. I also gave her bangs...I'm certain that'll go over like a lead balloon..but you couldn't see her doe eyes...and I love her eyes.

The only thing (besides OW) I won't miss is the bugs. We've not had a visit with the babies for a year and a half where there weren't lice brought along. We've had to give up overnight visits to the cousins (we're really tight) because of them...but, you know, those children were worth it.

I don't know if Wookie will be able to do it. I'll not pressure him one way or the other for contact or no...but I'll miss them. They fit with me. Their mother doesn't...not in any way, shape or form, but these kids....I don't see how they came about...I rarely think of their origins. They are PEOPLE. I cannot look at them and see anything but little people who do nothing but love and need me.

Perhaps that's the difference between OW and me.

With much love and sadness tonight,
- Kimmy

I'm sorry it had to come to this for you.

Sincerely,
kt

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I'm so sorry it's come to this. I know how much you love these kids. It've very clear!
This is going to be hard on ALL of you so I hope you can much support from KT who's been there done that.

I wish I could make it all better for you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Thank you all. I tied him up (not literally) when he got home from work yesterday for a helping of holy what for mixed in with "I'm proud of you for doing the right thing" (I didn't add "finally"), and "no one ever said the RIGHT thing would be the easiest thing."

OW has been playing ugly with every pick up and drop off...and sometimes in between, and it seems he was getting a double dosage of hopelessness what with how much time it'll take to actually GET the kids away from her, and then on top of it all her evil spewings.

We've agreed to take it a day at a time for now to see how much and what we're willing to live with in order to do what is best for the children.

On a happier note (?) CPS called us about the most recent lice infestation (like it ever ended?) today. That was a glimmer of hope...however small.

Wookie took OC2 to the doctor today. OW never had him circumcised, and because she felt "odd" cleaning his poor winky has fused so that he HAS to have a circumcision. ARGH. My poor baby. Better now than as a teen, I suppose.

Oh. And she asked us to keep them longer. Seems she somehow broke her wrist. Like maybe the time she got so drunk she fell and broke her finger...or perhaps the time she got so trashed she fell and ended up with a concussion....she won't tell how it happened, tho.

I'm off to read a book. I'm re-reading the Gateway series by Frederik Pohl. Nothing like huge mathematical strings imbedded in a story to get your mind off of things.

Oh! Had 1 job interview today and another one tomorrow. I'm also going to go to the kids school to see if they need any teacher's aides.....it'd be nice to have a job that had the same holiday schedule as my babies.

- Kimmy

I'm so sorry it came to this.

It really sounds like CPS ought to pay closer attention to xow (eeeew). But I know it can be a long drawn-out messy process.

At least the kids had a small chance at seeing what normal family life was. I hope they get to experience that again.

Meanwhile, I hope the break enriches your OWN family life.

Blessings and sympathy,
J

OK, NC BUT he's taking them to the doctor?

I'm confused....so is it NC or C? or going to the courts or what?

About that circumcision.....btw: there are other options besides 'cutting'...look into. Just wanted you to know.

PS: your membership is approved/accessable now for the 'other' board.

xoxox
kt

No, no, no. We're going to the mats (courts) - and still have contact, but the gauntlets are off. She's been harassing us...both of us (she called MY work cell yesterday looking for Wookie...WTF, and how dare she? She's only to call my cell if one of the kids is bleeding or something). BUT! We've decided to call CPS every frickin time the kids come with lice. We are SICK to death of it...but it's not the kid's faults....and we're not the ones that should have to take care of it (even tho we have no choice but to when they are at our house).

So. We are playing it by ear with her. She really is making us resent the hell out of her (like we didn't already)....it was almost to the point that Wookie was gonna throw it all up and let God sort it out....but I gave him the proper "buck up boy" speech, and got through.

- Kimmy

Ok, so initially (first post) HE had decided NC, but after mroe thought, discussion & encouragement from you, you are continuing C but you are going to go back to court over it?

Is that right? LOL

Hope it all works out & she is put in her place!!!

xoxo
kt

Correct - about everything.

How long has this lice thing been going on? I can remember you posting about it forever ago? At what point can't she see that "oh, I've got bugs and it's disgusting"?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />YOu know she has to have them too. YUCK. That is just YUCK!