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"Unfortunate" falls now upon the WH and OW heads. This is the penalty for straying... No, this is not punishing them but - the child! i.e. I totally agree with Nellie
I'm not Belonging to Nowhere anymore! :-)
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SO I called the OH to tell him all about what had really gone on bwt his W and my H. But he wasnt there so I left a message for him to call me. DOn't know how that will go. I let my husband back into the house after a day. I feel like I gave in. He has bee SOOO sweet and attentive and caring all weekend but I am suspicious. I told him I was and how felt like maybe he was just being like that to keep from being kicked out. He said that I would just have to wait and see because he really wanted things to change in our marriage and in our home. I still feel like he is still holding something back from that he is scared to come clean with. It will come out! So please anybody, pray to the Lord that all truth will be made mainfest and come to the light.
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I do have every right to be in this. I am his wife now and we have children!
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this phone call had nothing to do with their so. How do I know? because his mom had their son with her spending the night and she had called 3 hours before the XW calld my H.He knew this. If something was wrong with his son then His mother would have called him...and she did but he avoided her. he did not answer the phone...so his ex calls 3 hours later ( thank God for caller ID) if it had anything to do with his son then as soon as his mom couldn't get thru then his ex would have called him RIGHT AFTER THAT! NOT 3 hours later! I am not a stupid woman!
Last edited by summersmom; 07/25/05 12:57 PM.
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I have a question? When I asked my husband WHY he did this with her if we had such a hot sex life and I thought i fulfilled your needs,Then WHY did you does this? He never has an answer for me. He says he doesn't know why. Is this BS? He says he was being stupid. For crying out loud I was 7 months preganat with our baby when he did this to me and then it carried on and off for almost 2 years.AM i that naieve?How could I not have known?
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Your tactics have been controlling and futile so far.
Please read through all of the material on this site AND get His Needs Her Needs and Surviving An Affair.
You cannot control this man or his ex-W. Stop trying.
I'm curious...how did you meet your H?
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anyway, I finally exposd to the OH..the XW's H. she was trying to get everyone in to it...she was so MAD! she calld here non stop but my H would not answer the phone. He said that he has nothing to say to her and that he was glad that I told her H the truth of what had gone on. We feel now that
there will be more of an accountability on her end to her Husband! WE have even talked about moving away from here so thaat we did not have to deal with her so up close and personal anymore.
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I suggest counseling. It's almost impossible to recover from an affair without it. If your H won't go, go alone. Don't let money stand in the way. My H and I spent over $5000 over the years (on a very limited income). But if we hadn't, we wouldn't be together now.
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Counseling would be a good thing but we are going to have to find it free somehow. We have 4 children to support and are already on assistance. THere just isnt any extra money!It doen't matter how badly I may want to pay for counsel. If it isn't there it isn't there. I think we are going to go to our pastor in our church and speak with him about counceling. One thing I do know, I stay in prayer and am clinging to my Lord, Jesus! WE will get thru this. I have no doubts about that!
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