Hi All!

After about 5 solid days, I was finally able to establish an online account with our #'s (mine and DH) and get into the records (no easy feat but now I can do it online) I've only gone back about 3 months. In June there was only 1 call to the suspected OW and that one I knew about. In May there were only 2 calls, and in April there were many (both outgoing and incoming) Keep in mind that in April the whole confrontation with suspicians came out on the table and we had many heated fights about this. There is only one number that I have left to check (he only called a couple of times but there is a generic answering voice mail when I call (I block the calls when I check so they cannot identify)

Here is my question about deleting. When you delete a call after you have made it or someone calls you, I am assuming that call still shows up on the billing statement?????

As some of you know after reading my post, they are probably in deep hiding if this is still ongoing, as I have even left for a month over this. The only thing concrete that I have now is when I go into his cell (not an easy feat either as he doesn't leave it lying around much anymore) his list of contacts no longer shows her name but there is an entry with initials and HER cell #--the initials have nothing to do with her name!! Of course there are no recent calls to her as I am SURE he deletes them if he is calling her.

Blessings to you all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If you delete a call it still shows on the phone bill.

Yes, it will still show up. That same neat little feature tripped up (now) FWH last month. What he did was call her and have her call right back with her # blocked, so it wouldn't show up on the bill. So there were all these one-minute calls to OW that were supposedly accidents. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> If nothing else shows up on your phone bill but you still have red flags, check deeper, as deep as you can. Melody Lane can recommend a good keylogger for your computer, and keep your eyes open (i.e. search the dickens out of WH's stuff) for a secret second cell phone. Good luck!

Also I just found out that on sprint you can have a hidden number in your list of contacts. Still learnina bout that one. Incoming calls do not show the numbers on H plan so I cna't tell. Plus he uses work phones all day long so who knows.

Did you call the phone company and ask for a full printout of all activity? They may be able to fax it to you.

I doubt they will as its his work cell phone and I learned how to print up his bills last year. I only get outgoing calls. But some calls are pretty lenthy so I am sure it was her. Now they do not show up as much thank god.

Does he own his work phone, or does someone else? Could you get some assistance from the boss?

Thanks C and NSYN,
I am digging. He isn't at the computer much but I will consider it. I am really at a loss now but I am going to get mileage on his car and check it.
He has an incredible amount to loose if (God forbid) we should divorce as we own this business together. He would maybe have to sell in order to pay me off. He will go into hiding big time in order to keep this under cover!!!!!!!! I will consider hiring a PI if I have to but as of now we don't have the money. I should get some prices. Anyone have a rough idea of cost of one???????

In my area, $65.00/hr plus expenses such as mileage is quite average. It may vary from place to place. There is quite a bit you can do yourself, though, especially with the help of friends or family.

I think I'll have to talk to hubby and see if we can put together an informational packet for "How to be Your Own PI" or something. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />