For those of you who don't know I am obviously new to this forum. Here is my back story for the most part.

Married young

Today I have ended plan A. She has moved out the locks are changed and she is off the lease. I have told her about the no contact with me until she is through with him. I told her that any support she got would have to come from him. She was pretty broken up and it seemed as if the fog of the A may have been lifted slightly. I was very caring but at the same time stern and clear. I hope she doesn't do anything to herself but I am not going to contact her to tell her that. I have instead enlisted family and friends to do that but she isn't returning their calls.

I am starting to do things to better myself and I think the hard part is over. I feel as if plan B is much easier if you actually have gone through plan A and gave it a fair shot.

I Am wondering if there is anything I need to remember during this period or any guidance that someone may have for me now that I have just begun plan B?

Thanks for all the support. You all make this much less painful than it could be.

Bump. What is my next step? I could really use some words of wisdom.

Actually, the next step is all about YOU. You need to stay busy. Very, very busy. Go places, do things, have fun. If she is looking, she will see that you are moving on without her. Stay away from places you think she might be, and just move on with life. Go do something you have never done before. Bowling, go to a little league game, see a funny movie, visit with friends, whatever. She never thought you would really do this. So let her deal with the shock. She will agonize some. That's good. If you think about her at all, make a list of your boundaries. Keep it by the phone or computer or whatever. If she contacts you, look at the list of boundaries and let them remind you. Go through the bedroom and living room and put away the pictures and things that make you think of her. Go to a discount store and buy new things that she didn't pick out. Pillows for the couch, pictures of YOUR family in some frames that YOU buy. Redecorate, especially the bedroom. If she should come to see you to try to make things up, she needs to see changes you have made. Doing little things like this can make you feel more in control. Move the furniture around. Make the place look and feel like a different place. New, masculine sheets on the bed. Whatever. Get busy, buster. Time's a-wastin'.