FIRST THINGS FIRST. NOONE has been anything but "supportive" to you here, so please do NOT use the sympathy card here....NOONE said that you can't or shouldn't post here or that they were angry with you. What you are suffering is horrible, but WE in essence cannot help you if you DON'T see that you need help yourself. What I mean by this, there is NO RATIONAL explanation why this "person" did this to you. PLease stop looking for answers that ARE NOT THERE. There is no "closure" that he or any of us can give you.

Somethings are what they are in this life, and your WF is just that. It is MORE LIKELY that the mystery is his "getting it together" for the 6 months he wooed you, not his behavior for the remaining times he has known you. Your WF "wonderful" behavior during his courtship of you was more likely the abberation here.

Goodluck to you. You have been given very good advice here, take it or leave it, it is all up to you from here.

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It is too hard to understand...we all wonder! your fiance spent $7,000 on an engagement ring and my Husband bought a piece of land in the middle of his affiar before I found out...We lost all the money we put down on the land after I found out...point is...they do stupid [censored] like this and we wonder...WHY? you can wonder why all you want, but there is no answer!

I guarantee your fiance did not change overnight...he was probably this way all along...your courtship was short...that is about the time it takes to show your "true colors" you say 6 months! That is not long at all! Did you know him prior to this? He did not change overnight darlin...he has a problem...please go get help!

oh puhleeese cereal..

why in GODS name would you bow out of this forum with an apology for causing anger...

you didnt cause anything here...

I say that as well as the psycho therapy you must get yourself to a womens shelter for the RESOURCES and CONNECTION with people who have been exactly where you are right now...and can teach you the skills you need to dig out of this hole....

that there is tons of help out there for you...

closure is psycho babble...

figuring out WHY someone is violent is psycho babble as well...

get thee well first...then worry about others,...

ARK

You are selfishly only looking at ~your~ pain ... Your behavior causes your family and your friends GREAT pain ... do you even care?

Cearal - I need to talk to you. Honey I was M to a violent man. Listen after he left and moved in with my BF -he kept coming by and beating the sh$t out of me. I was alone in a town with no friends,family anyone. My closest neighbor was deaf. My ex used to come in and take the phone off the wall. I used to take him beating in silence so that my boys did not wake up. But guess what they heard it. My youngest was 1 yr when he left - do you know how may years he went to therapy so he could sleep at night . His ightmares involved his D coming into the house and killing us all. It was so hard, every night we went around the house cking locks and window locks were all locked and then maybe he could sleep at night. Do you have someone who can raise your son if he kills you?? Get the [email]h@ll[/email] away from this man and go far. Do not let this man near him ever. I am warning you from one that knows. It get worse -NOT better- It get worse. and worse. I have problems surfacing as I get older from the beatings i have taken. Please I can not stress this enough if not for your look into your sons eyes and tell me you do not care if he is safe or raised by you??