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It is really bothering me that my STBX is having his neices around the OW. I want to say something to him and his sister about involving these kids to this. I don't know if I should or not. I know it would make an impact with my SIL but don't know if it will or not to STBX. Any advice???????
It is driving me crazy!!!
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Tree,
thats a tough one. I dont really know what to tell you. One thing I would consider though is if it would be effective, or if I would just be written off as me being vindictive and then they go ahead and do what they are going to do anyway. I would be inclined to not put the effort into it if it wasnt going to work. You know your situation with these folks better than I do.
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It is really bothering me that my STBX is having his neices around the OW. I want to say something to him and his sister about involving these kids to this. I don't know if I should or not. I know it would make an impact with my SIL but don't know if it will or not to STBX. Any advice???????
It is driving me crazy!!! It is UNLIKELY to have any impact and will make you look like the vindictive, psycho EX who "can't let go"......not that you care what people "may think". Does your EX-SIL know about the affair FROM YOUR POV, or has she only been "briefed" by your Ex? Sour...
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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WasCrushedNTexas...I think it might be affective to my SIL. She's the one that told me that she wants nothing to do with his OW and I will always be her kids aunt. She's very easily swayed. She's a week person.
I basically just wanted her to know that it hurts me and that I've lost resepect for all of them.
lemmonman...My SIL has heard my side and my STBX's side. She's been very angry with him during this whole year. I'm going to sit on this one for a while and think about it...
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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IMVHO, let it go! Let THEM deal with it...You worry about you and YOUR son and let them worry about their kids...Just let it go Tree! dont worry about your STBX any longer! Unless he is of course "abusing" them...
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Thanks MovingForward4Me.....I think that's what I'll do. It really hurts that I'm being replaced like I never existed. His family is unbelievable!!!!
Did you go to mediation? How was it?
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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I went to court for temp orders....mediation is Sept 1st...I THOUGHT in court it was decided he would give me a certain amount of money and continue me on his business payrolll....well, I just got a check in the mail for less than HALF of what I THOUGHT i heard...and all these numbers written on the outside of the envelope!
I dont know what he is doing...but if he is only going to pay me THIS much, I mine as well live on the streets!
Yup, it does hurt to think that in their twisted mind that we never existed...but you WILL be better off without him...You WILL get to the po9nt where it does not consume you all the time...It does get better! I promise...but YOU have to heal yourself first...you have to let go! It is very hard, I know...
email me if you want...take care
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