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Well I haven't posted in a few days but here is what has happened. WH and I have been attending counseling and he doesn't participate at all so it is a waste of time. Told counseler that we would have no more joint sessions he needed to work on him self before that could happen. WH is still fogged out. Been busy looking for a place to live with the kids. Not going so well. WH cell phone has been cut off so it has been quite here with out his calls. I refuse to take calls made from OW house. Am I right? If he wants to talk to me or the kids he can call from some place other then that Hoping to sell a horse this weekend. But who knows. I am really tired and have basicly retreated to my corner for a while. To plan my next move. I guess i will send him my NC letter in a week when we get moved. And let his thing run its coarse. But making plans and moving a head the only thing I can do. I still have issues with my anger and hurt but he refuses to face that or take any responsibility for his action he just keep blaming me. So I just keep plugging. If I don't find a house soon I am leaving the state. That is the only thing I can do.I have to look out for my kids. well more later if I have time
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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Joanna, I apologize I have not followed your story closely. Have you done a good plan A? YOur WH will not own up to responsibility while he is fogged so stop frustrating yourself by expecting him too. Also as you now know, MC is a waste while the A is ongoing. Please make sure you leave a pleasant impression before you move to plan B. Post your plan B letter for others to help you with. Best of luck to you and your kids.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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I am working on Plan a and have stopped lb's when he is here I am reassuring and loving when ever he is here. it is just hard when he is living elsewere at the moment but have staopped all anger directed at him and have come to realise along with the therapist that wh is a cake man. he is enjoying having me take care of some of his needs and ow the others.But will move into plan b before long. it is really draining to be plesent around him at times. but when he calls i always inquire about how he is and how work is going and so on. so I am doing all I can right now.
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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Ok, make sure you post your plan b letter before you give it to him.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Sure no problem I am working on a rough draft now
Me BS32 WH 31
d-DAY may 30, 05
2DD ages 12&2
Headed for D fast
reside in KY
Married 4 years together 8
Go figure thinks he is a good father 4 days a month.
Left our home moved in with OW
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