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I received an anonomous letter in the mail telling me of my husband's cheating. I was in Florida introducing our new 2 month old to my parents and he was left at home. He got very drunk one night and ended up having sex with a friend who I not too long ago helped through a difficuly time of losing her son. I am going through the emotional roller coaster. But how do I know when it's time for me to decide to stay in this marriage. We weren't married a year when the affair happened. I know that if alcohol were not a factor, it would not have happened. I do believe that. But it sill hurts the same. I have kicked him out and have no emotional support. I made the mistake of telling my mother and I don't find her all that helpful. What do I do next? I need help.. Please...
CV(me)- 26
JV(H) - 30
DV - 5 months
married 1 year
together 3 years
Discover date - July 21, 2005
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You need to decide if you think this marriage is worth saving. I have only been in my marriage for a year and half when my H cheated on me. If Iraq werent a role it would not have happened not that its an excuse because it was and still is wrong. Do u love your H? Are you both willing to get into some MC? Maybe some IC for youself it will help you out. If you love your H and want to work this out than i would said do it. Does he feel guilty for what happened?
I know about the mom thing too, i told my mom now she cant even speak on my H name or even look at a picture of him right now. As the days go by it gets easier but your the one that has to make the choice not your mom or anybody else. Sit down together and talk things out and see if you both want to save your M. DId he admit to this?
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Dylan's Mom, You mention nothing about your H and his feelings around all this. Is he distraught? Is he trying? or is he disinterested?
My H's 10 month A started with a one night stand while they were drunk. For 6 months nothing and then when our newborn was about 6 weeks old, he was back with her this time no alchol and no one night stand. They work together and after the one night stand, he never did completely cut her off...allowing it to re-kindle during a stressful time in his life so to say.
I think whether you stay in this marriage depends a lot on what he is doing now. What do his actions say? More info needed to help.
Good luck.
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