Okay, sourpuss, surely you knew that would draw me out of hiding! Last time I checked your type pay alot of money for us to protect your silly butts... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Brit's Brat

NO, we pay alot of NEEDLESS malpractice premiums because of your butts and the frivolous lawsuits that are filed on a minute by minute basis.....LOL.

Personally I have been named in 5 suits in my career...and EVENUALLY after all of the legalese BS manueuvering and posturing and wasted dollars and patient care time lost I was dropped on all 5 of them. In each and EVERY case the lawyer was a low down, scum sucking heathen.....but that was just malpractice attorneys. I can't speak for your "kind"...OK, that one is probably going to get me in trouble.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Q: What do you call 500 lawyers at the bottom of the ocean?

A: A GOOD START !!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Sourpuss,

When I was litigating (I am now corporate in-house), I was a civil defense attorney. I handled one wrongful death malpractice lawsuit involving our doc's treatment of a prisoner in our City Workhouse (jail). We actually convinced the jury that the prisoner was 49% negligent because he didn't go to the infirmary to get his meds!! This resulted in the ultimate verdict being cut in half! Our doc was not the most upstanding of your profession...two days into the trial, he disappeared- later found out he went on vacation. Several years later, after I moved onto the corporate world, I read in my hometown paper that he was convicted of some drug-related offense - don't remember exactly what.

Some of us are okay....just like some of you (comparing you to MovingForward's STBX). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Regards,

BB

PS - I like the new nickname!

Yeah, I know that. I fully know that there are many lawyers who are good, upstanding people, but there is NO DOUBT that my profession has definiely skewed my view on the legal profession. I don't think you can call MOM23B WH a real doctor...I think he was a podiatrist..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> :grin...just kidding.

Ok, T\J is over. SOrry Dani.

I am sorry I have been a few days w/o posting. The darn dog ate through the cable for the internet while I was gone yesterday.
Well Monday I went down to the court house to talk to the DA and to get the papers to serve him yet again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
The clerk said 'your husband was just in here' OH REALLY?
Yep, he wants to terminate the Protection Order against Marci (the OW) and also to amend his bail conditions so he can have contact with her.
I just looked dumbfounded. She said that she told him that he could not terminate the PO because my name was on it and I would not agree. He took the paperwork to fill out anyhow, and said he would try. Adam (my WH) said that he needed to amend his bail because Marci WORKS with him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> WTF? I filed a motion to amend the PO myself because we had a mutual friend as an intermediary to get my personal belongings that OW stole from me back, and he is no longer willing to deal with the OW, so we need to set something else up. The fact that I filed to get my things back is going to ROYALLY piss off my WH. Oh well....
I just got my papers and left.

Later that night when WH called me I said 'so, Marci works with you eh?' He sounded very scared and said 'who told you?' I just told him to answer my question. Well comes to find out, this is her 3rd week of training working installing direct TV for the same company. She is staying about an hour north of my WHs parents with the guy who she is training with. That is where WH has been going every night. I was pissed. Now he has entangled her in every aspect of his life. He is very scared that I know where she is staying and works now. He said he is terrified of 'what I can do'. He kept begging for me not to 'blow the gasket and ruin this for Marci' He then goes on about how if I really loved him I would help him drop the bail conditions and PO so that he wouldn't go back to jail. WAHHH WAHHH.
'Danielle I know I won't be with her forever, but it is fun'
'Maybe I love her, maybe she is my sole mate'
'Maybe one day I will realize I f'ed up and need to be with my family but right now I am just so confused'
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
So......I sent him a voice mail on his phone last night and then this morning he called me to say 'thanks for the message, OW heard it.' WELL WHO CARES! You shouldn't have been with her. He says he knows, but he has been doing it for weeks now, get over it.
ERRRRRRR. I told him that he needs to re-sign for the divorce, he said 'sorry, all it is is a piece of paper, I am not paying to change it'
Danielle

so I still find myself asking (especially after your last post):

Or BOTH!

Well, on August 10th he is in court for a contempt hearing. August 6th will be one year from the day he began his affair (I found out about it the first day it started).
The new sheriff of the court is a personal friend of mine and my husbands, who BTW always smiles at my WH when he goes into the court and says 'how is everything' and WH says 'good' the guy says 'take care of your gem' with a smile. It makes WH mad! Anyhow, I have already spoken with him and he has a copy of the divorce paperwork in the case folder so on the 10th he is going to serve him at his hearing. OW also has a hearing on the 10th for violation of protection order. I told WH that I needed my personal property back (which includes an L.L. Bean tent that OW has been using) and he said 'Danielle, don't take the womens home from her, she is going to be living in the tent again soon'

Oh, btw, about 10 minutes ago I got a call for 'Mr. Cicci' The OWs last name.....
WH just called to tell me that he is sorry for lying last night. Then he goes on to ask me ‘Why can’t you be carefree like me?’ ‘Why do you let everything bother you so much’? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Everything? Or just my husband sleeping with another women and lying to me every word that comes out of his mouth?
Danielle

Why stay in contact with WH in this situation?

Time to step out of it and let them implode on themselves.

More than one BS on here has said, "I should have moved to PLAN B sooner."

The longer you stay in contact with WH, the longer he is able to stay in his situation because he gets some of his ENs met by YOU!! Remove those ENs from him and see how well the OW does.

But only move to PLAN B if you are going to take it seriously, and REALLY stay out of contact with him...

Well Monday I went down to the court house to talk to the DA and to get the papers to serve him yet again.

Are those people tired of seeing you yet? You must be there as much as the judge is.

How many times have you "gone to court" now? Check you calendar and see just how much time you have wasted doing all this? You go...file a motion...amend it....go...file a motion...drop it.

STOP integrating your life with that of the OW. She has your "tent"....LET IT GO. You can live without that tent...you've been living without it for awhile now, haven't you?

God...I am beginning to think that you are addicted to all this drama...are you on a first name basis with the people at the court house?

You know....you DO have the power to wash your hands of all of this...the question is "do you even want to"?

My post might sound harsh and judgmental to some of the posters here...and I am ok with that. I think you need to know that all this motion filing...and trips to the courthouse to see the DA...is not any kind of life to live.

JMHO
committed

Committed,
I do understand your POV. It isn't only the tent, and if it was I would just let her have the darn thing. She has the wedding ring my Mom got when she married my Father. She has my son and daughters foot prints that were made in clay from when they were both a week old. Things I can't just LET GO of. I knew most of the court people before this whole situation became, and it is quiet embarassing actually to have to be there. I am actually on the phone right now (on hold) with my WHs attorney because he is calling WH to tell him to come into the office today to talk, and hopefully get him to sign the papers in the office. I talk more to his attorney then he does....
Danielle

They are 'things" dani...material things.

You already have the treasures from that marriage.. .your Kids. Don't let these "material things" cost you your sanity...or your self respect.

Going after these things keep you embroiled in the drama...and I believe you mentioned before that you cannot stand the thought of her "winning" in all this. Don't make it a contest...don't let it be a case of not letting her get over on you...unless you enjoy being in that arena. He ain't a prize. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

committed

Dani, I didn't realize it before....but the timeline between your WH's *A* and mine is VERY close.

I understand the line of thinking that she is winning (because I think the same way)....but that relationship is going to self-destruct if you step out of the picture, they're thriving on the drama too. You don't have to screw up her job at DirectTV...She'll do it for you, and can you, for just a minute think about them working together(Outside the structure of the military)....they are going to get a lethal dose of each other....working together is the death nail for many a relationship....and if she'll cheat *with* him.......you know where I'm going with this.

He's not worthy of you, my H isn't either.....which leads me to believe love really is blind, as well as deaf, dumb and completely stupid.

I dunno Dani, maybe all we can do is just get on with it...ya know? My husband doesn't know what to do with me not fighting him on the divorce, and of course, I'm still holding out hope...I can't seem to stop myself.

You and I are self destructive Dani, we're both so much better than this, and both of these men are going to be VERY SORRY.....VERY SOON.

-Caren