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Got another email tonight.
aaron, you need to talk to me. you can't just shut me out no matter how pissed off you are. i know that this is not what you wanted, but you can't just shut me out because of this. every time i call, no one picks up...i've sent you like 4 e-mails. you can't get out of this. now, if you don't get together with me on thursday, i am going to file the papers this saturday and then you have 2 weeks to respond, so unless you want to be a part of this and go through the paperwork with me (which i highly suggest for both our sakes), i would strongly advise you to at least e-mail me back. calling would work a lot better. this is one problem that you won't be able to find a way out of...
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Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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Hmm, not really sure how to respond to that...
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Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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im not exactly sure what my attorney is supposed to do...?
Bleh...this is so dumb. I'm 20 and getting divorced.
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Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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im not exactly sure what my attorney is supposed to do...?
Bleh...this is so dumb. I'm 20 and getting divorced. Your attorney is suppose to represent you in legal matters. She is speaking of legal matters regarding your M? Let your attorney handle it. If you feel you are strong enough to with stand a WS in the flesh, then respond (i.e. in person, via e-mail or phone). If you feel you may not be strong enough (which is totally understandable), then do it via your attorney. Either way, handle it as it is best for you. As for her saying you can't avoid this confrontation, that's babble. take care, L.
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If there are no real assets to divide, and since you are a student, and so young, I don't think she can get into you for alimony, so let her do it all.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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She's just escalating because she's not getting any attention....
don't give her any.....
write a Plan B letter.....
post it here and get it right...
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If there are no real assets to divide, and since you are a student, and so young, I don't think she can get into you for alimony, so let her do it all. There are a few assets like our furniture; but that's about it. She already showed me D-papers about a month ago and was not filing for alimony or whatever it is where I have to pay her money. I'm just kinda worried about her changing the property that I get to keep and trying to screw me over because she's angry I haven't talked to her.
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Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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I'm just kinda worried about her changing the property that I get to keep and trying to screw me over because she's angry I haven't talked to her And if she does, then that's what the lawyer is for - mediating an agreement. Don't give in to appease her need to talk to you.
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How do I get my lawyer to mediate the agreement if she says she's just going to file them on Saturday? How can she file them when I haven't even signed them?
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Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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She's just escalating because she's not getting any attention....
don't give her any.....
write a Plan B letter.....
post it here and get it right...
ARK Alright - will do. How do I go about writing a Plan B letter? What is the format? What do I add in and what do I not add in? I know there has to be a sort of format for this <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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"How do I get my lawyer to mediate the agreement if she says she's just going to file them on Saturday? How can she file them when I haven't even signed them?"
Fox, that's exactly what your atty is for! Just hand it all off to him - let him earn his fee, for pity's sake.
With prayers,
PS: IMO you should be asking for an annulment, not just a divorce. Talk to your atty about this.
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"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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Well technically my attorney isn't getting paid - its a family friend that is a family law lawyer being gracious enough to help me out. I'm 20 - I can't afford an attorney.
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Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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"...technically my attorney isn't getting paid..."
Then just let him do his job.
I hope this isn't going to be a case of, "You get what you pay for."
Seriously, though, seek an annulment. It's better than a D at your age, and very common.
With prayers,
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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What is the difference between an annulment and a D?
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Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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Hello,
A divorce stays with you legally as always been married. When you marry again this new woman would be your second wife.
An annulment means legally you were never married. It does go on your record as being previously married. It means the marriage itself was invalid. It is a much better way to go for your future.
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Last edited by Trix; 07/25/05 03:25 PM.
Married 1976
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i have been married almost 2 years - is it too late to get an annulment?
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Began Dating: October 29, 2003
Married Feb 13, 2004
D-Day: July 28, 2005
Separated since: June 9, 2005
Now in Plan B - headed for D.
Praying on God's guidance and support
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
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I don't know where you live, again check w/ your attorney. However it is way too late in many states. You could get anullment if she misrepresent herself before M. Such as if she is still M and get M with you.
Anyway ... write plan B asap and give it to her.
-rh-
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The time limit for a legal annulment varies by state. 2 years is common. Especially if the initial separation was earlier than that.
There are also religeous benefits of annulment. In the Catholic Church, for example, you can marry again in the church.
With prayers,
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
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