I am new here to the post so I will tell you a little bit about my marriage first

My husband and I have been married eight years and togeather almost eleven Dec 31st will be eleven years I am 30 and my husband is 32 up until Dec 2003 we had what I thought was a great marriage until I found out on Jan 1st 2004 my husband had been cheating on me since Aug of 2003 we split up for five months and decided to try to work things out and our marriage just has not been the same since

My problem now is this

My now ex-best friend whom I have known for about 2 1/2 years and her fiancee which my husband has been friends with since they were kids are getting married in about three weeks my husband and I were suppose to both be in the wedding he the best man and I the maid of honor now since my frined and I are fighting over nothing really $5 which she claims I owe her sister which I do not I am not in the wedding after I spent well over $200 in clothing and accersorys to be in the wedding anyways my husband is still in the wedding and he has absolutely no intentions of saying he will not
Now my problem is I don't mind him being in the wedding or even going to the wedding and to the reception dinner but after that I feel that I do not want to be around ecspecially when everyone gets to drinking and I feel that he should come home with me at that time so do you disagree or not?
He says it is my best friend and I will not go home with you I am staying and having fun after the dinner
The other problem is that I know how his drinking gets out of control and he claims that is why he cheated in th first place and they (our friends) are trying to set him up with a recently divorced friend and I am afraid that he will "hook" up with her at the reception and cheat again my two problems are

1. I feel he should stand by me in this situation and go home with me after the dinner at the reception?

2. How do I convey my concern about him cheating without making him mad?

Any input would be greatly appreciated <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

there are a couple of things about your post i wanted to comment on. first, if i am understanding correctly, you and your best friend are no longer friends because she claims you owe her sister 5 dollars? that seems like a really miniscule reason to not be friends anymore. why not try to patch up that situation and get yourself back into the wedding party and be friends with her again? pay the sister 5 dollars if thats what it takes. what is easier? being right and losing a friend or giving in and losing out on 5 bucks and keeping a friendship?
anyway, another thought i had was that you said your friends wanted to hook your husband up with some recentlt divorced friend. that is a huge issue in my opinion. why are you friends with people that want to get your husband to cheat on you?
lastly, if you are willing to go to the wedding and the dinner, why not stay for the reception? you might even have fun with some other people you know there. then if you want, you can watch the interactions your husband has with other girls, if that's a concern of yours.
anyway, those are just my thoughts...