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I have a question. My husband wants to share joint custody of my daughter which is fine with me. He says he wants her to spend one year with me and then one year with him. Is this workable?
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I'm no expert, but I'd think that would simply mean that every time she started to get 'rooted' her life would be disrupted again. Not to mention that as a mom, I would find it unworkable for me.
How old is your daughter? Would you and H be living a block away, or different states or what? What benefits does he think this might hold?
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He says he wants her to spend one year with me and then one year with him. Is this workable? WHAT? So if he goes to Hawaii, are you moving there as well? And when he then goes to his next assignment and so on.... Where is this child's home going to be? Where is her stability? She's already going to be faced with obstacles because of the choices her parents made, please don't counter that by putting more obstacles in her way.
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Bill
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As a mom, I can't imagine my child living away from me for a year. And I too can't imagine uprooting her every year.
As a teacher, I see serious concerns with this kind of arangement. Would the school be the same from year to year? Parenting styles would need to be very similar with similar beliefs. A child can fall behind very quickly in school and catching up is very difficult.
i believe a child needs a very stable upbringing. I can't see how stable it is when a child doesn't really know where home is
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