Did not want to continue to threadjack the other thread. I'm not going to do a lot of responding on this one either...don't have the time or inclination. Plus, it would not really serve a good purpose for where most people are at emotionally on this site.
Peachy,
You will get an apology. I have to work on it first, because I don't yet feel totally sorry.
Stepmalla,
What a cute, cute name! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Whoever said something about my dear husband away with someone else. Actually, that would have been better than what he was really doing. He had to take my MIL (who lives with us, and whom I've become very fond of) to a specialist in another state. The outcome was not positive. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />
Jaye,
We're in sync!
MAW,
I remember you posting before and you have come a very long way! You sound simply fantastic. Pretty amazing since you've had to deal with that crap right outside your door. THAT would have pushed me over the edge. You are a great mom and an amazing woman.
Iwanthimback,
You got your wish. As far as the analogy about stealing. It doesn't apply as he wasn't stolen. People don't own other people (at least not in the States). Perhaps your marriage ended partly because you felt too entitled to tell you ex what to do, how to act, what to feel? Have no idea, just throwing out possibilities based upon your "ownership" mindset. An intimate relationship cannot be destroyed by anyone other than the two in it. They create it, they maintain it or let it die. There isn't anyone in the world that could break my relationship up with my sweetie right now. The only reason is, is because we are both TOTALLY FULFILLED and happy with one another. Harley's principles really do work!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Now if one of us, or both, stop taking care of each other's needs, that will be the beginning of trouble in our relationship.
Our previous marriages were filled with years of lonliness, unfulfillment and anger. My H and his ex spent years in family therapy to no avail. I spent years in therapy (my ex wouldn't go). Both ex's had been told, pleaded to, cried to and screamed at many times over what was missing that we needed. They didn't care to try to fix it. They were happy with the way the relationship was. They were getting their needs fulfilled and didn't understand why we had a problem! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I walked away with a clear conscience, knowing that I had tried everthing possible for many years prior to finally giving up. My minister even counseled me that it was okay to give up on the marriage as my H wasn't a Christain. There's much more to that story, but I won't go into it. Before you start assuming that he wasn't aware of my sin of adultry. Yes, I had told him about it and he had helped me with getting out of it.
Hope everyone is having a great evening.
