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#1437635 07/25/05 10:39 PM
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I went snooping. Found a sealed letter in WH's car, not addressed. Opened it up & it is "love letter". Not dated, so not sure how old it is.......Said that her saying "I love you" was what he needed to get through the weekend. He was off last night so if he wrote it over the weekend intending to give it to her, he would be giving it to her tonight....

OR IT COULD BE AN OLD NOTE!!!!

Oh gosh, what should I do. Put it in a new envelope & stick it in his car or hold on to it & let him wonder what happened to it!!!!

Kim


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Married 16 Years
DS age 8
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2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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This could have been a note from weekend before that he was intending on giving her and never did. I haven't been snooping lately. Last week was when she got so angry with him & now she is not speaking to him.

Should I confront him tonight with it?????

Kim


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Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Ask him for an explanation. CALMLY.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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I will have to stay up til 1:30 AM to ask him about it. I don't know how calm I'll be at that point. He'll know I've been snooping. I went into his car's dashboard and dug through it, just checking through to see if there was anything ....Voila.

Kim


D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Thats good that he knows you were snooping - remember, you aren't the one with something to hide. Shame on him for putting you in that position.

If he won't be home until late, then confront him in the morning if you think that will be better.

Kim, you need to call the OWH again tomorrow and tell him they are still talking. Your H is lying to you about contact and they have just gone deeper now.


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I am going to lay down on the couch and wait for him. I can't sleep on this.

Kim


D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Maybe I should replace the note with a No Contact letter!!!

Just kidding!


D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault

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