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Discovered letter last night that WS wrote to OW. I was under the impression that OW was mad at WS. WS sure pulled one over on me. The note said that her telling him "I love you." was what he needed to get through the weekend. Don't guess I need to share all of the details of the letter, but it has made me so sick inside.
I asked him about the letter last night. He said he didn't have too much else to say about it. I asked if he was still going to give it to her & he said yes. OUCH. I reminded him what he had said the other day, that he wanted to love just me again. He seemed to not remember saying that. Then he said he did want to love just me..... I told him I would continue fighting for our marriage. I asked him not to give her the letter...He said he'd probably just write another one. He ended up leaving the letter at home.
I am going to keep on with Plan A. I still have a couple of calls to make as far as exposure. I am close to feeling like I can't go on doing this though. I know my sitch is not much different than others here, this morning it doesn't make it that much easier. Seeing words on paper, how he feels about her is all my tender heart can take this morning.
I should not be so surprised except for that I thought WS and I were making some progress. NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN.
Kim
D-Day, May 14th
DS age 5
married 13 years
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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How long have you been in a good plan A...
what is your timeline for plan B?
have you written you plan B letter...
do it soon post it here for feed back...
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Kim, I am sorry you are feeling down, but a WS in the throes of an affair is extremely decietful. You can't believe a word he says. This is why you must not hold back on exposure. Get your exposures done and end this affair, Kim. Quit messing around and do the right thing for your marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Call the OWH and give him the facts. Give him your name and phone #. Then expose them at work. Just get it all over with in one fell swoop, Kim, and that way you just deal with one explosion instead of these never ending explosions from ongoing exposures. Do it once, do it right and deal with the explosion.
And please give the OWH your phone # so you can stay in touch with each other.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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