I am soooo frustrated right now! verge of tears, verge of just yelling at him when i talk to him next. H works out of town, he rents a place a couple hours away and we see eachother on the weekends, i go there or he comes here, and maybe once during the week. have two kids as well. Married 15 years I am so mad right now...he comes home, didn't see him for almost 2 weeks this time, he comes home, phones me at work..oh do you mind if i go fishing? of course i said thats fine, he knew i was dissapointed, i knew if i said no he would still go, and then he would be upset with me. So he tells me"oh i should be able to meet you for lunch then" do i get one phone call, no, he doesn't come at all, now day is almost over, not a phone call nothing. Im so mad! This is what i get...alot of the time...he'll come home and either go to sleep or drink and be annoying. So whats the point in being with him. His D is home you would think that maybe he would ask to do something with her...im going away on holidays with my girls on friday, will be gone for two won't see him for 3, so im very dissapointed and hurt that he would tell me that and not make the effort to come see me.
Its like when hes in town its always a disspointment to me, im not happy, when he leaves and is gone for a while im happy...what do i do??? I know if i say something he's going to freak..so whats the point.

Ouch.

There's a lot there, a lot of anger and bitterness. But I'll nibble a few bites.

Any chance there's an affair going on, so he doesn't "need" you for anything?

If there are a lot of LB's back and forth, quite frankly, he may not want to be home. Doesn't make it right, but that's the way it is.

You ahve to keep in mind that you can't change him. You can change how you treat him, you can change yourself, but you can't force him to change. So you have to look at the things you can do that *you* have control over, and let him be responsible for the thigns that he has control over.

You need to establish some boundaries that protect you an dyour daughter while still being reasonable.

Jaye has some good thoughts up there and there is a lot to wade through.

I totally agree that you need to set boundaries and quit feeding this cycle. You knew that you didn't approve of him going fishing, so why did you agree? Break the cycle right there not in a mean arguementative way but break it none the less.