My husband and I have been married for just over one year,
and we have one daughter together ,
I found out 2 months after we were married that he had a
one night stand with his exwife, he told me this,
and promised never to do it again, well I forgave him,
and the affair has continued and gotten worse, his exwife calls my house all the time to tell me they are still having sex, and when I ask my husband if this is true he of course says no that she is lying, this has been a on going affair that acording to his exwife he has sex with her about once a month, and he tells me its not true, but I really dont believe him , I have asked him if its not true to call her in front of me and confront her about the lies,
but he wont, and he has been very rude and distant with me,
and tryed to hit me a few days ago because I called her and told her I knew he was lying to her ( I over heard him call her to tell her that he was not with me, that he was at work) so I called her back and said yes he has been with me all day, he got so angery about that I couldent beleive it.
I really dont know what to do anymore,
I have asked him several times to stop all contact with her,
and I have threated to divorce him, but he seems to be addicted to her, he wont go out of town with me for anymore then one night, and then he is calling her everytime I am out of the room.
any advice welcome!
God Bless you all
Love Lisa

How long was your husband legally divorced from his ex before you started dating him?

--Just curious

they were only married for 6 months because she cheated on him and she divorced him way back in I think 1994 , yet from what I now know they continued to have sex even after the divorce. thankyou for responding.Lisa

well, here is a update on us, I have been fasting and praying for the healing of our marriage, his exwife and I have had no contact for over a year and then just last week she got mad at my husband and called me up to tell me that they are still haveing sex and that this has been going on behind my back for the past year, so here I am not knowing what to say or do, just leaning on the Lord God for my everything.
things have goten worse in my marriage over the past year so I do have reason to believe her , my husband is more and more cold and distant to me, gone all the time, and if he comes home he will spend all the time in his office on the phone with God knows who. he will get mad at me for walking in the room when he is one the phone., his kids he has with her are still not allowed to be around me and our children together. its just a total mess!, anytime I try to talk with him about things he get angery, and accusses me of not trusting him.so here I am still stuck in the same situation. and I could really use any advice.
I am going to order the study course on here, and put a end to this once and for all.
Love Lisa

Oh boy, I am really disapointed in this forum, I thought I would eventually maybe get some help/advice, but none yet. in over a year. maybe some people fear giving advice in my situation. anyway here is another update.
my husband I think is still having an affair with his exwife,
she called me a week before thanksgiving to tell me she is 3 months pregnant with my husbands baby, and she left a message on my voice mail saying that so I couldent ask her anything. I filed for divorce but then changed my mind cause my husband came home telling me that she is just lying trying to say whatever she can to break us up, I believe him that she lied about being pregnant because I remember her telling me when I met her that she had her tubes tied and cut and burned after the birth of their last son about 10 years ago. so the chances of her actually being pregnant are like 1% , anyway she has always tryed to say anything she could to break us up, I think she feels that if I divorce him that he will come back to her completely,anyway now its dec and he is starting to get real distant with me again, so I have been trying to get closer to him and talk to him about everything, last night he was at her house till 12 midnight so I totally had a panic attack last night and wanted to talk with him, and he totally pushed me away. I think he might have been with her in the past week cause we have not been together as far as sex in about 9 days ands he does not seem interested in me anymore. what am I to do?
should I act distant with him too?
what should I do to get his attention that I am done putting up with this?
thretening divorce does not work anymore, he just says if thats what you want then do it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> any advice welcome~! thankyou.Love Lisa

I'm still confused about your husband's relationship with his ex-wife prior to your marriage.

You said he was only married to her for six months over ten years ago?

Did they live together (as in common law marriage) for longer than six months? What was the status of their relationship when you married? How many children (amoungst all of you)are involved and who are the parents? Did you get pregnant before or after you married?

What was the reason they divorced?