I wonder foxor if this is how your wife feels.
"Hi there,
Well I don't know if your situation is the same as mine was...but this is how it was with me, when I was younger:
At around 18/19 years old I started feeling the same as how your Girlfriend seems to be feeling. I loved my boyfriend, and I'd been with him for a long time...but I felt I was missing out on things. What this boils down to was that I wanted to do things that having a boyfriend was stopping me from doing...so, basically, I didn't WANT to have a boyfriend. I was really confused, because I did love him...well, I thought I did. I loved him because he was familar..he had been in my life for so long, and I loved the relationship we had. But that was all changing.
I have to say, you are lucky that your girlfriend is being honest with you - she's better than I was. I didn't tell my boyfriend that I wanted to do my own thing, I was too scared of his reaction. Instead I went ahead and did it any way. I did end up cheating on him, and did a lot of things he would have been really upset about if he'd known. Since your girlfriend has actually talked to you about this, maybe there is a good solution for you two - I hope so.
I think that if you really love someone, you don't WANT to do things that would upset them or ruin your relationship. Not to that magnitude. I hate to suggest it...but perhaps her feelings for you are based on comfort, and friendship, and familiararity, and what she felt in the past instead of what she's feeling now.
I hope you work something out, and find the least hurtful way out of this situation...because it's a hard one. Good luck!"
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