Finally heard from WH, and it was not pretty. I guess I know where Scott Peck is coming from, when he is talking about evil. Yep - It's in me.

The conversation started out pleasant enough. My car got towed (it was my fault), and I can't get it back because it is in WH's name. I have been trying to contact him since Sunday, when I could have gotten it back from the tow-truck driver for $40 - if it had been in my name.

So WH got my overnight letter today, telling him I was going to buy another car if I didn't hear from him.

His first question was why I didn't contact him earlier. I told him because he has never let me know where he is living - it's a secret. Then I told him I called on his cell phone starting 3 days ago. Turns out his OW has had the cell.

Well, now he can't go get the car, has "other" things to do.

It got worse from there. I told him I was also filing for divorce. He said we could work this out. I told him that I have been trying to work with him for 3 years.

The argument kept escalating, ending with me saying I would never want him back because he was a bum ****.

Well, it felt good, but didn't do too much to help me get the car back.

Believer,

GOOD FOR YOU!! And yes I think you really had to tell him that...like he didn't already know it.

Is your WH on GLUE?? for God's sake?? What does he mean by "We can work it out"?

Just wondering how you got the overnight letter to him?

Stay strong and GO BUY A NEW CAR!!

k

Krusht -

Well, you won't believe it but about 5 minutes after I made this post, my WH and step-son showed up with my van. My step-son, who has always been close to me paid for getting it out.

I told my WH that I have the D papers for him, and need to have a neighbor serve them. He said that he and son were in a hurry and he didn't want to go through a lawyer. He jumped in son's truck, and said "This has been going on for over 2 years. Don't you think it is time we ended it?"

I told him yes. He said he will be over this weekend to sign our original settlement agreement. So, I know I shouldn't be hopeful, but I am, sort of.

Well thank goodness you got your van back!



I was thinking the same thing ~ we can only hope he does follow through!

Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Oops. Sage didn't like my description of WH in the sack. Oh well. I think WH knows I mean business, and am done with him. Of course I have thought that before. So we will see.

I am very thankful to have my van back.

Good for you, B.

far

FAR -

Thanks. I guess I have gotten to the end of my rope with all of this. I have tried for a long time to be nice - just didn't work.

Way to stick to your guns believer! I hope you go on to great things, I know you are a great person just by the things you have done for me.

You show him what he lost by being better than he could ever dream of being. Keep being you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Navyredman -

You hang in there too. By the way, do you work for the Navy? I do.

I feel kind of bad about the way I talked to WH, but I am really done with him.

Hope you and your wife do better.

LOL believer... I suppose WH (AKA bum ****) was kinda hoping he's get invited for a roll in the hay!

Pep - you know my WH so well. After I told him on the phone that he was a bum F, when he came over, he told me I was looking good, and maybe we could get together. Yuck!

I am biding my time, thankful that I got my van back, and hoping to get the papers signed this weekend.

Believer, you sound strong. Not resigned, or destitute, or delusional, but aware and strong. i know this has been an eye-opening experience, but you're dealing with it all really well. I can't put it all down to your knowing that the D is an inevitable; I think you're really just that amazing of a person.

love and hugs,

slh

I used to be in the Navy. 8 years, but I was in the Navy police and it was getting bad, they were letting E-1's come in as police and they were getting big heads and causing major problems. It seemed almost like to much of a health risk from my own guys to stay. That and I wanted to be with my wife and kids more. Guess we see how that worked out. At the time the only problem we had was being apart, now the only problem is being together <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

We know why that is though. Too bad there's no magic word huh?

Wh sounds like a real jerk to give up somebody like you. You are a strong person. Be good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

SLH - Thanks - at first I was in the victim mode, but got out of that quickly.

Navyredman - That is very interesting. I work at Naval Hospital, Camp Pendleton. They are still having problems with enough personnel. They are having to get corpsmen to fill billets, and they stay only for 6 months. Very difficult. Plus they are getting guys that wanted to save lives, and have no desire to be cops.

Yep, it was the same way with us. Although we got some GREAT people when 911 happened. They brought in all kinds of real law enforcement from around the states that are reservists. I learned a lot from every type of law enforcement there was. I think the most interesting was the US Marshalls. I got to talk to some of the big bosses and almost applied, but they told me I would more than likely have to move where they told me, and I thought me and my wife wanted to move where we are now. Of course since all this stuff has happened, I found out my wife never wanted to be here anyway.

OH, I wanted to ask, are you civilian or enlisted/commisioned?

Hey Believer...

If that's the worst you've called him, you're doing REALLY good! LOL!

Regards,

BB

I agree with that. I've said some bad things and had same angry outburst that I wish I never said. Deserving or not, it's still not nice.

I'm a civilian GS12. I do understand the problems. Where I work, the guys responsible for security, don't even have money for bullets or target practice.

What exactly do you do Believer?

Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Susan - I work for the Navy Hospital as a contract specialist. Since D-day I have had 3 promotions.