Sorry I can't continue post to my recent post, but page will not open for me. Just found out yesterday H that has moved out 5 wks. ago is still seeing OW from the fall. Ok with that, I know it is over for us, but the kicker is this. My D which he has raised since see was 2, asked me to call him a few wks ago because see missed him(she is 16) he said well I was not much if a father so I don't know why she wants to see me, I explained she was the only dad she knew. Long story short he said he would see. Never called or seen her. I find out yesterday from OW husband My H took OW and her 16 yr. old son out and had a family day together. How hurt I was by that. I called the OW husband and he knew alll about the affair but loved his wife, he wanted me to talk to his wife. NO WAY!! What goes around comes around. She would not listen to me, if they feel they are so in love let them, this is what I told the OW Husband. Went to my counsler app. and talked to him. He said if D is what I need to do to make me happy and healthly then brak all ties with H. I did, told him he had 1 week to change mailing and to get all his personal stuff out of the house. A little rocky day yesterday, but all said and done I feel good, like a weight has been lifted from my shoulder. I will never understand how people can dispose of people and their feeling and replace them with others, it hurts to know that H would treat D like that, I thought it was me he wanted away from. Life must go on and I make sure I tell and show my D how much I love and value her as a person. I just wish people would think of other people's feeling before they just stomp on their heart. I realize know my H never respected me, never made that commit to our marriage. All that yelling he did at me and the pointing the finger was reaaly him looking for blame for his own actions. Life will go on, this will not change who I am, I will grow from this and only become a better person from all this hell, I can walk away with my head held up high, I wonder if my husband can do the same?
