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Ok...I found some emails that my STBX has written to his lawyer. (hee hee....don't even ask how I managed that...I'm good on the computer.) Anyway, he is making his lawyer think that my son has met the OW and that there is no problem what so ever. He's also making me sound like a horrible person. He's basically blaming me for everything. My question is.....Do I keep this info to myself or tell my lawyer? Also, will the fact that he's lying to his lawyer make a difference in mediation? I'm a few steps ahead of him and plan to bust things wide open in mediation.
Any advice???
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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I think in your situation... the person that need to know everything is your lawyer. If he needs it, he will decide. But you SURELY do not want to be the victim of 'I didn't think that info mattered'. I would tell your lawyer everything. Let him decide what he uses to protect YOU. Thats what you pay him for.
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TR
your lawyer yes and also how you got the info..... dont say anything here or to anyone if even its a little smack on the hand job.... your lawyer will know whats legal or not or on the borderline etc so no free hits for your STBX.
Make sure you go through all the mediation info you have as well with your lawyer to protect yourself & son.
Hope things go as well as they can for you & you son in the circumstances
W 38ys
H 39 yrs
DS 2 yrs
DD 21 yrs
DS 20 yrs
M nearly 21 yrs
WHO DARES WIN
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Thanks Patriot. You are right...I need to let my lawyer know everything. I still can't believe that I was able to get the info I got. It was my lucky day yesterday. :-)
I'm leaving for the Bahamas tomorrow morning. Can't wait to get away from all of this!!!!!
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Excellent tree ! Get a boat to Bimini. Go to 'the compleat Angler' Drink Kalik in the sun and forget your pain.
{{{{T}}}}
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Me thinks Tree is going to be very popular in the Bahamas! Good luck Tree! Have fun! You deserve it!
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bob...I plan on relaxing and forgetting everything that is going on....can't wait!!!!!
WasCrucshedNTexas....Popular in the Bahamas huh? LOL. Ya never know....I could meet my dream man. hee hee.
I'm looking forward to getting away. I'll share a photo when I get back.:-)
Last edited by TreeReich*; 07/27/05 10:50 AM.
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Thanks aussie2....That's what I was wondering...should I tell her how I got the info. I may not be able to use some of it but at least we have a heads up to what my STBX is trying to do. :-)
My STBX is trying so hard to "get me". I don't know why. I've never done anything to this man.
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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