This is my second posting - It's been 5 weeks since D-day, my W and I have been talking about our situation daily and we are civil and even friendly at times. She has not yet agreed to write a NC letter, but I feel like she is close. We will be going to see a MC very soon.

My W has no brothers or sisters and her mother has Altheimers, her father died when she was young. Because she has no family, other then me, she has confided her A with three of her close friends. In fact, they knew about the A while it was happening and did not inform me. I have not spoken to them since D-day but my wife continues to speak with them daily.

I'm not sure what type of advice they are giving my W, but I'm certain it's not helping my situation. If they had any brains they would have told me earlier or influenced her so this situation would never have happened. Maybe I'm looking to lay some blame somewhere but that's how it is for now.

Anyway, I feel like they should read some information about A's and how they are destined to end, just like I have done, so they can be a little educated when they talk with my W.

Is it a good idea to contact these friends and ask them to at least educate themselves about A's? or should I not involve them any further?
Thanks.

If it were me, I would write them a short note and let them know that you love your wife, and desire to stay married, and would appreciate anything they could do to help.

Have you figured out what problems in the marriage contributed to what happened?

Jesse, trying to educate people about A's is pretty useless in MHO. Many times so called friends are A enablers. I think it would be best once you and your WW are in recovery to introduce the POJA and the first thing to POJA is her daily contact with these friends. Time for you two to make strong friends with couples that you can spend time together with.

Her GFs are telling her what all gfs do, they want her to be happy. If the OM is making her more happy now, they are probably pushing her into his arms. If you know these ladys, tell them how much you love your wife, and get on their good sides.

Jessedog, sounds like your W has some real scummy friends. Vivian probably is right, they want her to be "happy." I guess we should be grateful she is not a serial killer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

If it were me, I would let them know that "friends" don't sit by while friends destroy their families. Her "friends" are no friends at all. With "friends" like that, who needs enemies?