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Have you ever fallen asleep when your W or SO was giving you a blow job?

It happened to me last night (I'm the W)- I feel crappy because I don't know if he enjoyed it or if it was boring (he didn't make comment this morning about it).

I guess I feel self conscious about it because the last time he didn't respond to this, he later admitted that I "didn't do it for him anymore."

Anyway- is this normal? or rare?

Never had one in my life.
Squid even eats bananas by breaking bits off with her fingers and occasionally gags when brushing her teeth ! Not a great candidate for OS.

Seriously I can't imagine sleeping through such a pleasure OR being so disrespectful during lovemaking. Was your H drunk ?

There is a joke amongst men you may appreciate:

"Describe the worst blowjob you ever had "
"marvellous"

In view of this I can't imagine it was a technique issue.

Maybe you don;t offer this activity any more to see how he misses it ?

I would have bitten him. See if that woke him up.

Thanks for replying Bob-

No he wasn't drunk. He had just come to bed after watching the baseball game. I moved over closer to him (he was awake) and began OS. It only lasted maybe 10 minutes (I didn't do a marathon on eor anything). When I was done he moved a little (I could tell if he was awake - too dark). I just cuddled next to him and eventually fell asleep myself. It didn't bother me until this morning until he didn't mention anything about it and I remembered that he never did exchange any type of touch during or after the OS.

He used to tell me how great I was at OS. When did I begin to suck at sucking!!???

Wow, interesting story!

Off the top of my head,
My vote would be rare .....but then who the Heck really Knows?

Truly, unless I'd just run a triathlon or something on top of not sleeping for a couple of days ....I doubt that would Ever happen to me.

But seriously,
maybe instead of getting worked up ...perhaps your H just gets really really relaxed during SF?
(You know, he feels so safe ...and feels totally comfortable being with you).

If he was tired on top of that, I suppose it could Happen.

Not making fun of your situation, but it really did bring a chuckle to me to read that.
So just know that you did bring a smile to someone today (even if totally unintentional).

Hope your ego isn't bruised too much?
But I'm sure mine would be in a similar situation.
Honestly, I believe we all can understand Why your feeling like you do.

I'm sure this is very difficult to bring yourself to ask him about and Risk being Hurt/embarrassed again.

I am sorry this happend and your feeling so bummed and insecure about it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Good One Beliv! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hey, maybe try that next time.
Bet you get a Reaction Then! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

TR-

Thank you so much. I understand that Os can be very relaxing (that is completely understandable) and I ahev no problem giving OS without something in return (except maybe acknowledgement that he actually felt something).

My guess is biting him would be a huge LB!!! Although it is tempting!!!

Well my W loves giving BJ's to me...and I love getting them. Never in my 11 years of marriage have I ever fallin asleep...drunk or not.

Yeah...you should of bitten him.

Well, it looks like a lot of people have viewed my question!! I thank all who have responded (the humor was very helpful too).

My H just withdrew a ton from my love bank- it's gonna be hard to get back on the saddle again- pun very much intended. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

O.K. Obviously I've been brooding over this all day long(It's hard when all I have left to do at work involves my computer).

I so want to please my H. This may be way out of line (moderators are welcome to delete this question!!!)but-

Can anyone give me ideas. Something new?? (FYI- I've done the "Velvet Tongue" in the 100 nights of Great Sex Book already)

Have you tried the butterfly flick?

Or reaching toward the back with your finger?

YIKES! Don't know how to say this without getting edited.

I haven't really done the butterfly flick.

I have done the second thing (he definitely enjoys that- I didn't do that last night)

Thanks

Why do you think he said you "don't do it for him anymore"?

Is he very tired all of the time?

Paranoid,

I will admitt to falling asleep one time (I was 18). I was so very tired and she was so very... not tired. My girlfriend felt humiliated and was furious. She eventually got over it because she knew how much I cared for her.

And by the way, she did wake me up. Not by biting, but by "slapping" it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

OK..first...

I have never fallen asleep receiving but I have while giving <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Second of all...

ASK HIM!! You know he is probably a bit embarrassed..I would be...cause...hell you could be mad and never do it again and he would not want that!!

It's OK to be upset but I'm not sure why people assume that something was wrong...as far as I see it nothing was wrong until you did not communicate about it.

Clearly SF is a touchy subject...don't "guess" about something that is so damn important....

Ask him to direct you. Or better yet suprise him in someplace he would not expect it. Have him pull over when you too are driving and go down on him. And if he falls asleep again...ask him for a $20.

GOOD ONE HEMI!!! LOL...except $100..make him pay heavily...

Believer-

I posted in Nov 2004 about the last time I gave OS to H with no response. He mentioned that my weight gain from the birth of our DD#2 (born 6/18/04) had made me less attractive to him. O.K. after I realized he was being radically honest with me and stopped pitying myself, I went on a diet and exercise routine. I am now 25 pounds lighter (actually weigh the same as when we were first married- 9 years ago). I have since been trying really hard to meet his EN's (of which I am guessing as he does not want to fill out the questionnaire).

I still need work on my LB's (although I have made pretty good progress- again guessing on those as well).

I'm kind of stumped about last night. We had a pleasant night. He came into the bed discussing the game (not seeming fatigued at all). It was no more than one minute after that I began OS (I honestly don't think he was that exhausted that within 10 minutes he would be that much asleep- I would've htought that me stoppiong would have stirred him at leaast a little).

My emotions regarding this have been up and down all day.
I'm starting to get angry about it now. I feel so disrespected!!

Send -

I am completely scared to ask him again. The first time I didn't get an acknowledgement of OS, he said I didn't completely fulfill his need for an AS. After trying to fulfill this need with diet, exercise (pretty much plan A'ing wihtout the presence of an affair on either side) I am just afraid I haven't done enough. It comes down to ego. But I can't help it-I am scared to know the radical truth!!!