it is so unfair, I have worked hard the past 2 months to do what was right because it was the right thing to do, and he didn't stop the contact at all.

i'm praying now the contact will stop because he knows she blabbed. thats no fun now is it.

Not sure if I should go to plan b, I don't see how I can. Perhaps he'll break down tonight, i guess I can hope for a miracle. I think he wants to stay married to me, but he's not acting like it.

I know how you feel, Whattagirl. I know WH is still lying to me..sort of. He is just not telling me when there is contact. He will admit it if I confront him...but wont volunteer any information.
I hope things work out for you. Hang in there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Katie

here comes the breakdown...

I don't understand. I'm reading all the WW stories, and the guilt and remorse....I was not a WW but I was in depression and could not take care of the house and spent all my time trying to avoid reality...which included hours and hours on the computor. My Dh was sick of it, and he started treating me different. I decided to go on AD and started changing my life, back in May. There was a lot of damage done by this behavior to our marriage and it had a high cost.

The very day that I started weight watchers was the day he picked up the messaging frequency...the wednesday before memorial day. the next day was when I went to the dr. for the AD. I think this is ironic.

So my WH complains that what I did was no different that what he did. I don't see it. Does he hurt as badly as I do now with the EA, for the neglect and care I didn't give? I do not think I feel as remorseful as the WW who post about their regrets. I have regrets, but i don't think its the same. Its not that I feel like miss innocent, and I am doing all I can to correct the neglect.

He said he started the messaging to hurt me as revenge. Well, if it was in secret how would I know so he could get his revenge? I just don't understand and I'm tired of being strong. I'm having a rough day today....I know that the A was E and not P but that doesn't mean there wasn't anybody else nor that it wouldn't go P if he had the chance...he's proven to be dishonest and i certainly don't feel cherished.

So, please tell me what is the difference between an idol in my life like depression and self-medicating with time wasters and him having hours and hours of conversations with OW in secret?

I'm beginning to lose focus.....it seems all my hard work is wasted. It is clear that he didn't want to give it up, why would he still want to hurt me if I have addressed those things that hurt him?

When can I tell him all this stuff? why won't he take responsibility for the damage done or even recognize what he's done?