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If you go back and look at my story you will see that my FWH had and affair with a woman that we went to church with. We had been at this church for 7 years. We were very involved at this chruch. It was very ugly.

True recovery started in Feb. We left the church and true NC contact began. We have joined another church and are doing really well. We do not know alot of people but have met some parents of children in the youth group as we have a son is this group.

Last Sunday the youth got together on the beach. We met several parents but I would not remember them if I saw them today. We were at the peir last night and my FWH made a point to speak to this woman. When I asked who the woman was he said one of the parents we had me last Sunday.

This bothers me. I wonder how he could remember this woman when I could not. How do I comunicate to him that this bothers me? We really need to work the words we chose to comunicate with.

Someone help me learn how to better comunicate with my FWH.

Thanks


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the way I feel right now about communicating, I would recommend a 2x4 but I don't think that is the actually proper way to communicate....forgive me for interjecting on your thread. I hope you can work it through.


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LU, I would not say anything about it because you don't have anything to say. You are rightfully leery of anything he says or does and should watch your back. But don't get into the trap of seeing something nefarious in everything. Just watch your back and confront him with real issues.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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