Why are you so wishy-washy on this? One minute you are fine, the next you are not. If you can't deal with the fact that I am dealing with the separation this way, then I will send in my papers. I don't care if your love for me is dwindling, Aaron....this marriage has already caused me enough pain as it is...maybe now you know how I feel. And I am by no means cheating on you, so don't so saying I am having an affair or whatever because that is absolute [censored]. And supporting ME financially?? Last time I checked, I was the one with the job paying all of the bills. I've been supporting you. I will come and get my TV when I have time...I have a full-time job because at least I have to have some responsibility, so when I have time I will give you a call...and I expect you to be there. You can't just run from this. You are going to have to face me no matter what. We have much to discuss and you are going to have to buck up and be just as big of a part of it as me. It's not easy, but since when has it been?? I honestly don't think you love me anymore, so I don't see how our marriage is going to work, and frankly after all of this, I don't know if I want it to anymore, because all of these stupid e-mails you are sending me are starting to piss me off. Make up your mind!!! Don't have me sign separation papers to just turn around and change your mind...it's not productive. As for my stuff in Pullman....I don't have the opportunity to get it right away, so you will be back at the apartment before I have a chance to get it. I expect it to remain untouched, the way that it was left. I'm sorry, but sometimes (and this is just my opinion) you can do some pretty dumb things when you are upset or angry, and I know this is one thing that you definitely are not going to like. Let's just do the divorce, Aaron. My heart is pretty much convinced that not even God himself could help our marriage, let alone marriage counseling. I'm sorry. I really feel there is no way around it and it's evident by all these e-mails you are sending me that you feel the same way. And I haven't been lying to you, so I don't know where you pulled that out of your [censored] from...When I said I didn't know what I wanted, it's because I didn't. I've been completely honest with you this whole time, so I really don't appreciate that. Well, I don't know what else to say, and frankly I am too pissed off to write anymore, so just get back to me if you ever feel like it. We will need to get things squared away. Oh, and I'd like to handle the papers if you don't mind. I will send you a copy of them so that we can go over them together. We can talk about this more in person because I don't feel it's appropriate to do it over e-mail.

Take care,
Shan

wow - what the [censored] has happened to her?

so [censored] immature - i'm sorry but I'm flaming pissed right now.

now she is on instant messenger trying to [censored] pm me - saying [censored] like

"I know you're there"

"Respect me enough to talk to me"

and all this other [censored] horseshit. Are you [censored] kidding me?

I'm sorry - but all [censored] respect I ever had for her, for EVER wanting to save this marriage just went out the [censored] window.

Wow -

I don't want to deal with this egocentric, self-centered [censored] EVER AGAIN. READ THAT [censored].

"My papers" - "Me" "I"

..................................

I swear to God, if she says one more thing to me, I'm ditching Plan B and throwing her out on her [censored] where she's gunna go get used and work for minimum wage the rest of her natural [censored] life.

I think you better calm down before you get in some serious trouble. Do some breathing exercises or something. We all know it sucks.

now shes harassing me online because im not talking to her; trying to provoke me into giving her a response.

Shannon says:
did you get my email?

Shannon says:
hello??

Shannon says:
i know you are there so can you at least extend me the courtesy of responding?

Shannon says:
...

Shannon says:
are you going to respond to me aaron?

Shannon says:
or are you too busy changing your name and picture?

Shannon says:
you know, i understand that you are probably pretty angry, but this isn't the way you should go about it

Shannon says:
you always ignore me when i tell you something you don't want to hear

Shannon says:
but i'd really appreciate if we could just talk about things

Shannon says:
please....

Shannon says:
i know that you are there

Shannon says:
aaron...dammit, why won't you talk to me?

You need to turn off your computer and go to bed before you say something you shouldn't. I'm the expert on that and I should know. Just let the night calm you down

oh don't worry - i have no intention of talking to her;

its fun watching her talk to herself.

Gawd...now how did I KNOW that this would happen? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


You are NOT in PlanB if she is IMing you and you are reading them....can you say " BLOCK HER".

You are getting YOUR little fixes Fox...either be serious about this or go back to what you were doing before. Afterall, it was working so well for you...wasn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

committed

Why are you bothering to listen? Block her. It'll help, believe me.

All I got from her email to you was, "I, I, I, me, me, me." She's trying to emotionally extort you into answering....Go read a book, Fox. You'll get more out of it....and it'll tak your mind off this mess.

- Kimmy

alright - fine.

She's blocked.

Fox,

I say this with all the kindness I can muster...

GROW UP

This isn't a game...and if you think for one minute that it is...you have ZERO business being married yourself.

committed

Doesn't sound like you're having fun to me.

yeah you're right - its not a game; but neither has her been [censored] with my emotions for the past two months.

I'm working with the maturity level I'm at; I can't take back the fact that I got married too early; patronizing me won't help anything. You're right - I'm not ready to be married; but I AM - and I'm not just going to say "Oh damn, I'm too young - [censored] this."

I agree, block her. Get caller id, don't answer her calls.
That's what plan b is all about.

so when I have time I will give you a call...and I expect you to be there.

That's my fav line. When I have time, I expect You to be there.

Look at it this way.

She is blocked; I didn't respond to her. Mission accomplished; so please, back up with the 2X4s.

Please don't call your WIFE a b, no matter how you feel right now. I know, we all know, this is the worst few days of your life right now. Greive, cry, pray, read your bible, call a friend. Trust me, I know, those were the worst days of my life.

I'm not calling anyone; she is blocked - if she calls (we dont have caller ID here) and I pick up; I will hang up.

>two months.

Two months is NOTHING in the grand scheme of things. You know this, Fox. You think you've got the cornerstone on misery because you were married too young, and it's been 2 months of [censored] for you?

Sorry bub. Not gonna let you wander down that pity party. Your feelings are valid. But by becoming a spectator watching your WW self destruct is going to do NOTHING for your personal grace.

Yeah. I said it...your grace. You SAY you walk with the Lord? Extend that compassion then to both of you. To her, remove yourself from the pain she willingly passes off onto you. For you, you do it to save your sanity....it gives certain satisfaction to your taker to watch her "talk to herself." That bit of selfishness (that we all have) eats at a person, though.