Fox,

You guys have a better chance of beating the Huskies than your W getting it any time soon. I am sorry to say that but it is true, and with friends like her, you don't need...

I know it is hard, but let this go. Return to school, lick your wounds, proceed with the divorce, and LEARN both from the books and from this experience. What you don't know yet is that all of this pain, all of this introspection WILL make your next relationship and marriage sooo much better.

This girl has done you a favor, although it was not her plan or yours. You will realize this in Oh! about 2 years, and really appreciate it when you hit 30. By 40 you will just shake your head and hope like heck your kids don't get in this situation, at 50 you will be telling people they are "marrying to young." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and by my age you will sooo sorry for what they are going through but you will KNOW they have to get through it to grow.

Fox, you are growing emotionally, and growth is often painful, especially if you are growing too fast as you are. But, you will survive, and when you 60 post to someone and help them, got it?

God Bless,

JL

Fox,

JL is right. Go to Plan B. Proceed with your plans. I keep telling you to have no more contact until she has met the conditions. And as JL has said, it doesnt appear that she will do that anytime soon.

Send PBL again and this time...no more contact!!

Get thru the depression a day at a time. This is withdrawal, and is tough. This same feeling is the reason many WSs have such a hard time breaking it off with the OP.

So, just take it day-by-day. You are being taught something here, Fox. You are being taught how to endure. It is called stick-to-it-iveness. How to understand that if you just push forward, the storm will clear.

So, send the letter. No more talk. No good-bys when you leave. Dont be pressured into one last goodbye or hug or anything else. Just leave and get on with it.

God will take care of your wayward, immoral wife. This divorce, her affairs, etc fall directly on her now. Not you.

Just stand back and let God take care of that. You just do what you need to do. And then later (as JL says...somewhere in the next two years), you will have the answers to the mess you are in. And your future will be much more clear.

In His arms.

Things are going downhill...

I'm out of money; I was asked to leave the place I was staying and still have two weeks until school starts with no place to live and no money to eat/get back to school.

None of this would have happened had all of this crap not have happened. My feelings for my STBXW just keep getting better and better. Yippee..

Dropping this unexpected bomb on me that she wanted to separate and leave our apartment just destroyed my entire summer and ability to live soundly - it sure was easy for her to back out on us into a stable family environment with a roof over her head; and in the process she threw me out into the fray knowing I had nowhere to go and that leaving Pullman was throwing away our only form of income...WOW.

Well, as of tomorrow - I'm homeless.

Thank you for everything guys...I'm sorry things turned out this way, funny how one selfish person can ruin someone's life...I hope seeing other men means more to this woman than the guilt of seeing the man she promised to spend her life with lose everything he has because of her.

I sacrificed my relationship with the only family I had left for her; I gave her a place to live; paid her bills, gave her unconditional love, and she didn't think twice before running out on us back to her warm house and the security of her mother's house - leaving me with the bills, knowing that I had no place to go other than our house in Pullman. Bringing me home with her under the guise of me living with her at her mom's until we started school; instead throwing me to the wolves and taking all of our money in the process.

It must feel good knowing that she's got a family and a warm house to go to when things in her personal life get rough. Who cares about throwing her husband's life away in the process though? Obviously not her.

Now I'm going to have to spend the next three weeks on the street begging for food and a ride back to school. Simply ****** AMAZING.

Oh...and I have no money why? Because she spent it on clothes and makeup and ******; and now, I'm having to pay $800 in rent on OUR apartment who's lease she just happens to not be on...funny, we both lived there.

Life must be really easy having a car and a family to go home to; I guess, according to her, I'm just a lazy [censored] because I had NO FAMILY to turn back to when she ****** me over, leading me to believe we were coming home to her mom's house.