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I have a major crisis going on that I cannot post on here at the moment...
Susan, I left a vmsg for Pep, but I dont know if she has recieved it...Does anyone know my number who can call me...I have got to talk to someone...like 3 hours ago...
thank you!
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oh and btw, email is NOT working...so I cannot communicate via email either! I NEED to talk to someone...
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I listened to your voice message after dinner. Thank you for asking. I don't feel like talking on the phone. Actually, I have never enjoyed talking on the phone much. I prefer to type. You need someone else to advise you ... I'll be real honest here ... I have gotten to the point where I don't like him .... and that feeling is STRONG enough to where I cannot give you advice. I admit that I am prejudiced beyond usefulness to you. I have lost my ability to think rationally about him. No kidding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I can only think of ugly things to say in regards to the update ... and I don't want to do that to you, or to myself. One of my strengths is, I usually am able to recognize my limits ... this skill has been acquired by going beyond my limits and getting into trouble. Well, I have bumped up against my limit . Here it is: I cannot lie to you. And, I refuse to say the thoughts which sting like venom ... at least for now. I have no love, no like, and worst of all , no respect for you know who. So I must be guarded. I am hoping that you are learning the same thing ... your limits. We all have limits. I apologize for failing you here.
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Pep, you DID NOT fail me darlin! I am better now...the whole day, he has been saying this and finally DID IT! I told him I am sorry you did that..youshould not have done that...I have no desire to do what you want to do...
anyway, My head is now back on my shoulders, hopefuly in the correct spot and I feel good about my decision...I'm sorry he did what he did, but I did not ask him to nor want him to...
Pep, I have need to post anything for "help" although I amsure people are curious...do you think I SHOULD ppost the lastest
and honey, you are not the only onoe who feels that way about this man...I have NO LOVE, NO RESPECT, NO nothing for him...I do have love, respect and value for myself...and I feel good now about the way I handled this...
thank you for your cander! Plese dont let your feeling for you know who prevent you from helping me...I value your advice...thanks!
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Why do I get the feeling you are talking about Lord Voldemort? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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We may possibly be in different time zones. I was headed off to bed when you posted this. I bought a little book yesterday at B & N and flipping through it I read "In the end, you will never regret being kind". I'm sorry to say but I have a hard time being kind when it comes to youknowwho. I'm glad it all worked out OK. Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Why do I get the feeling you are talking about Lord Voldemort? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> .... because we are! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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Pep, I have need to post anything for "help" although I amsure people are curious...do you think I SHOULD ppost the lastest No .... I think you are deserving of privacy when you choose privacy. This is your life ... and you only allow others in when it suits you. OK?
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I think you are deserving of privacy when you choose privacy.
This is your life ... and you only allow others in when it suits you. OK? Thanks all for your replies...he's being quite persistent...however so am I...all the sudden? just dont get it...anyway, I have made my decision and I know my decision is the right one...not sure where this is all coming from <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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One day ... I don't see that you are quite 100% there (maybe 70% or so) ... you will realize that what he says and why he says it ..... is irrelevant to what choices you need to make.
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I guess that means he isn't really backing anything up with real actions and no realistic, workable plan. So, whatever it is, it is probably more of the same old, same old, to keep stringing you along. He really should know better by now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers
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Never asked him to do what he did...just told him to prove it and I guess by just "doing it" he proved it...AND??? I have no desire to do it anymore....NONE...but he does not want to lose me to another person...whatever...
"it's different this time"
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I guess those are his words..."it's different this time"...with no back up, no attorney involved for a workable agreement with OC, or as intermediary for NC contact with OW , or a custody case against OW for full custody of OC. Or getting out of the NH. Or selling his businesses and relocating to SA to start over completely. If there is any chance for your marriage...which I doubt you are even wanting at this point, then you are at the point where only very drastic measures will act as proof of his real commitment to saving your marriage.
He knows what it is like with you. He knows the dynamics of your relationship potentials. He knows your capabilities sexually as well as what you are willing to do to improve any new marriage you have with him (or without him).
I don't know what he has done...but it must be a big thing from his point of view and maybe from his point of view only.
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just told him to prove it and I guess by just "doing it" he proved it...AND??? I have no desire to do it anymore....NONE... I really have no idea what this in regard to, BUT if you have no desire anymore, I would not ask him to prove anything. It is pointless. Besides, proof may not last; it could be temporary. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean. Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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susan, can you get my number from pep and call me? and if you dont want to, I understand...I just need to TALK to someone and I cannot put the whle thing out on this board yet...
I spoke to one MB friend last evening, but I would liek to talk to someone else...thanks
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I'm sorry, I'm at work and unable to do that. Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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I'm sorry, I'm at work and unable to do that. Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> not now...I cant talk now anyway...going out lunch in a bit maybe tonight..and if you dnt want to,I UNDERSTAND
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If you cannot post it here, I'd prefer email. Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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I'm not posting here at the moment
my email is really messed up right now...sending multiple emails at times (talking 100's) and it has jammed my email service...I use incredimail...I am working on cleaning it all out, however it is taking days...
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