I have a question. I am not sure if I am jumping to a nasty conclussion. On Friday, my W and I went to a concert for my birthday. During the Concert she said the needed to use the restroom. She was gone for an hour. I did not think anything of it, because there was a lot of people there. Yesterday, while my wife was napping, I was doing the laundry and when I took the contents out of her pants, I found her drivers liscence and a business card with a guys name on it. I thought this was odd, because she had to have gotten this Friday night. I set her drivers liscence and business card on the counter to see what she would do with it. After she woke up, I noticed that she put both items in her purse.

My wife and I have had some bad spots in our marriage and we went through a seperation about a year ago. But thing seem to be gettig better. She has admitted to me that she has cheated before on other relationships before me. I thought that was when she was younger and exploring, but I always have the notion that once a cheat, always a cheat.

My question is; do I bring this up. I do want to falsly accuse her of anyhing, but this is also affecting me. She can see it. She has asked numerous times yesterday if something was bothering me. I denied that there was.

Do I ask her about this? And if I do, what is the best to bring this up?

Thanks for the info!

Hello,

I do not think this looks very good. The fact that she has cheated in all of her previous relationships says a great deal. She was gone for an hour at the concert and now has a guy's business card with her license does not look good. If she is cheating she will lie to you. I would have gotten the phone number of this guy and keep it. I am always amazed at spouses who marry a person who has a record of always cheating in their previous relationships and they then are surprised when they get cheated on. If a person has a moral character defect why would it disappear? I wish you luck but your wife was gone for an hour at the concert is simply too much.

Something is up. Confront her. What have you got to lose.

I once had an ongoing affair with my roommates girlfriend. This was a long time ago, and we were all very young. Eventually she cheated on me too. I was devastated that she could do that to me..............then I remembered how we got started. Once a cheat, always a cheat. No question about it.

Dude,

I understand what your saying, but her cheating was long ago, I know I am making excuses, because it has bothered me for a long time.

She lives in a small town, and I am still shocked about the stories I hear. But I thought that maybe she has grown past this. Like I said this was a long time ago.

Yet these thoughts still linger in my head.......

Killerjoe1

do you think that could be a big misunderstanding? I am about to call her on this tonight and quite frankly.... I am nervous.