It's been 2 months since I spoke to OM's live-in girlfriend. It was the same night my wife and OM broke the NC agreement. She said she would call me the next day, but never did. I wanted to honor her feelings/desire and allow her to deal with this situation in whatever way was best for her.

Unfortunately, the conversation was very one sided. She asked me to tell her everything I knew, but she never told me anything she knew, other than that she believed my wife was still pursuing her boyfriend. She never elaborated, so I never got any details. Of course my wife totally denied this and I had no proof to show that she was lying.

I am now in a situation where divorce looks eminent, but I would like to know if all of the things I believe have happened this past year and half really took place. Other than my wife and the OM, the girlfriend is the only other person who might be able to let me in on the secrets.

Do I really need to know at this point, is it time to just let go and move on. Would it be wrong to contact her again?

I don't think there is a reason not to.

Do you know if they're still together? She may have left him? Call her and ask your questions. That way you'll know...and maybe get more insight.

I wish you the best of luck.

They are still living together. I thought she had moved out, but I noticed her car at their apartment the other day on my way to the attorney's office. They live a few minutes from my house and on the way to downtown. As long as we live in the same house, I can't really escape them if I wanted to.

I just feel weird about calling her again. She might have gotten on with her life and they may actually be working on their relationship.