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My husband thinks I'm fat
#1442342 08/01/05 05:07 PM
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I'm 22, 5'8", and I weigh 130. I have people tell me all the time that I'm SO skinny. I cannot believe them because my husband is always nagging me to work out. He told me he doesn't like my pudgy stomach. He also said he'll look at other girls and admire their flat stomachs. I knew there was something wrong because our sex life has dramatically decreased. He finally confessed he isn't happy with my body, and he's worried in the future, it might get worse. He feels bad that he is looking at other girls, but is convinced that if I was more thin, that might change. I can't eat, I'm always self-conscious around him. Our relationship has totally changed. Any advice would help!! [color:"red"] [/color]
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bbaattggiirrll #1442343 08/01/05 05:54 PM
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Hi, welcome to MB'ers.

AS (Attractive Spouse) can be a touchy issue. I don't think most people have a problem with wanting a wife who dresses neatly. But start mentioning weight and the issue gets more volatile. I certainly don't see 130 lbs at 5'8" as 'pudgy'. But I ain't your husband...!

I wish I had a good answer for you. Perhaps you'd consider posting on the Emotional Needs section - it's a lot more active over there. Maybe someone will have some experience they can share that'll help you.

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bbaattggiirrll #1442344 08/02/05 10:53 AM
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Confidence is everything.
When he tells you that you are fat and you respond negatively then it will only reinforce his attitude.
When he say's that he does not like the way you look or that your stomach is pudgy, you should say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I am convinced I am beautiful regardless of what you think or say."
His remarks are hurtful and the pain wont go away once you respond confidently but you have to reprogram your thinking so that what he say's won't matter. The quicker you start and the more you do it the easier it will become.

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