Mimi,

I was wondering if you wouldn't mind sending me an e-mail. I would like to get some advice, but since this is a public forum and WH and OW are aware of it, I need some private questions answered.

mommycbaby@aol.com

Thanks!!

I well understand your need for confidentiality and anonymity.

However, I really don't have the time or the opportunity to really help you through E-Mail while at work.

I have a hard time keeping up with my personal E-Mails...

If you want, change your screen name within the next hour or so and I will find you.

They're by no means "stupid" & could pick me up as easily as you can. I changed the post header....just need some private advice.

Thanks

What's going on with your thinking?

You know me, Christine. I would suggest that you get out of the triangle. Don't let THEM keep you from getting the help you need.

You will get a lot more help sharing out here on the forum than you would get just from ME.

Plus, I don't think THEY would go to the lengths that you are thinking to find YOU here on the FORUM.

If that is continuing to happen, if you are caught in SUCH a TRIANGLE, that is a major concern that I have for you....

Well, like I said we're getting along great - he's giving me time, attention, and affection. They still work together and his job search continues. We have done tons of talking, but he has his own way of dealing with things. I don't trust him and feel he's lying to me about NC when not at work. He always responds that he's with me & not her, if he didn't want to be there he wouldn't be. But, he forgets to wear his rings more than he remembers (he says it's been off for 8 months, plus when he works out he takes it off). When he's with us or spending the night, either his phone and blackberry are turned off or left in his car (he says it's to protect me, because she still calls or texts him from time to time). Although he might have ended it, I don't think he made it clear. I keep asking for a NC letter, or at the least tell her we're trying to reconcile, but he refuses - saying that she doesn't get anything from his personal life & that she'll "give up" or "get it" eventually. I have looked at the cell bill & info on-line, he's not lying about that - but I can not verify any activity on his blackberry (issued thru his office).

I think you would tell me to Plan B, but I don't know.

OH MY.....

What happened about her engagement to the Army guy?

Ah, the $64,000 question!! At one point it was believed that the engagement was off and their relationship was over. But, being that OW is only 19, she is naive enough to post in open forums (such as this) - they still have some sort or relationship, but I am not certain that there is still a ring involved.

My WH gave up because although he loved her, he loves himself more and couldn't allow her to hurt him anymore (his words). Apparently, she was all talk and no action. Seems as though my H became the "phone boyfriend" and work "IM buddy", but she never gave him time or did anything outside the office.

Maybe this is part of my dilema, too. I didn't "win" him back by my own merits, I "won" by default.

<sigh>
Christine

You said:



What have you WON , Christine?

Mimi..taking this slowly.....

if you love him...be happy you've got him back-no matter how

i wish i could get my husband back-even by default

congrats!

Eav-no offense-really...

CLOSE YOUR EARS to this CHRISTINE...Because I know you want to listen to EAV....

Christine,

Again I say, WHAT HAVE YOU WON?

it's okay mimi-i'm not offended
just hopelessly in love and desperate
wishing for a happy ending for myself
and anyone else in this situation

Christine:

Like I've told you before, YOU CAN BE A REAL WINNER!

You deserve a FEAST and are settling for CRUMBS...

I know the moves of a CAKE-EATER...I still am learning about the tactics that were used..it's all about him having as much fun as he can for as long as he can...

Playing around...like a 19 year old...

Christine, I think you know what you have to do... but you are afraid....

I asked you before..what are you afraid of?

Losing him? Do you really have him now? Really, do you?