I'm sorry, I have no idea how to post a reply on this forum! Things changed a little since I've posted. Perhaps someone can assist me on that

Anyway, thank you for your response. I appreciate your time and efforts. I will do a search. I do know most of the verses already pertaining to adultery, but maybe collectively they will help me understand more.

I had been praying for reconcilition to my xh, but after many years and many OW's I just lost the will and the heart. It's too gut wrenching to continue to see that and to be emotionally involved in that. (He is not a Christian)

I had been praying for the recent OW.xh, but it occured to me that perhaps their relationship was not considered adultery and that is why my prayers were not answered, hence the reason for this question.

I know that God is a God of miracles, and often times it is when we have nothing left to give that our miracles come to us. I'm not doubting that God can reconcile us, but I do doubt my ability to continue to pray and stand for this.

I recently have a desire to date, to move from our marital home and start a new life with my daughter and **that** special man. It has been 5 years, not that time should play a factor, but I have been faithful in not dating, in walking with the Lord and raising my daughter the best I know.

I guess I'd like some sort of closure, whatever that may be so that I can stop this constant *what if* that runs through my mind. Maybe it never goes away; it's just part of the cross I bear.

Sorry, I've rambled! Thanks for your time and reply. I appreciate both

God Bless

Cheryl, it sounds like you are "ready" to move on. Your statement that your ex-husband is NOT a believer is most revealing, because it strongly indicates that you and he have been looking at things from entirely different perspectives.

So here's a couple of verse references that you might find applicable to your situation.

But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances. God has called us to live in peace. (1Cor 7:15 NIV)

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? (2Cor 6:14-15 NIV)

Have you considered that God HAS answered the prayers of His child (you)? God does not want His children to be unevenly yoked, so it is quite possible that His answer to you regarding reconciling with your husband was "no." Not because that was the "easiest" thing to do, but because it was in your best interest as a believer and because He knew that your husband would NOT be faithful to you.

If you do begin to date, I would urge you to be careful that the men you choose to date are Christians. Should any of them develop into a potential marital partner, you don't want to be back in the same "unevenly yoked" position you were in before, especially when you consider God's warning against being unevenly yoked.

God bless.

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