well my husband has left me. I caught him at his ow house on saturday. I confronted both- she says they have been involved for 3-4 weeks I know it was longer. He said he wanted to seperate not divorce. He wants to have time to think . He says he loves me like a best friend and he has feelings for her. He says he will continue taking care of the house, kids, etc. and he says that the problem is not her its that he fell out of love with me.
He says he has been like this for 2 years. First he said 4 months now its 2 years? He said he had been wanting to seperate before but he didnt want to hurt me.
I am at my wit's end. I am betrayed, hurt.
I stilllove him - but hated what he has done and what has happened.
She is 5-7 years older that he and I with a grown daughter and MARRIED_ but seperated also. !!!!!!
What do I do. I dont want my marraige over and will he be coming back to work on this or am I just pathetic . ?
hes 42 - im 41. What is that about with this older woman?
What do I do- do I just divorce or find someone for me?
Is there hope or false hope?

winterkisses,

There is always hope for a marriage, always. Your WH (Wayward Husband) is revising his love for you, probably as I type this. Four months, now two years? Heck before long he'll be saying that he NEVER really loved you at all.

Such is the fogspeak of the wayward.

Read WATs quick start guide in this section and also the Welcome thread by One Going.

You might also consider posting over on General Questions II as there is more "traffic" there.

Hang in there.

~ Snow

Have you exposed the affair to her husband? Anyone else?