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Ex-Spouse as OP
#1443546 08/03/05 01:17 AM
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If a couple are divorced -- and one of them meets someone before the divorce is final, and then marries that person after the divorce is over --

If the former spouse sleeps with the newly-married ex-spouse in hopes of getting the ex to reconcile, is that ok?

I mean, the first marriage existed before the second marriage, right?

So who is the OP here?
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If a couple are divorced -- and one of them meets someone before the divorce is final, and then marries that person after the divorce is over –
If a couple are separated and in the process of divorce and one of them starts a romantic relationship with someone else before the divorce process is final – then it’s adultery because the couple are still legally married.

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If the former spouse sleeps with the newly-married ex-spouse in hopes of getting the ex to reconcile, is that ok?
No, it’s not okay – it’s adultery & betrayal towards the new spouse of the ex-spouse.

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I mean, the first marriage existed before the second marriage, right?
Yes, but now the first marriage is over and the ex-spouse is already married to someone else.

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So who is the OP here?
The ex-spouse is the OP in this situation. The person who is now married to the ex-spouse was the OP before the divorce was final. However, now that the ex-spouse is already married to this person, anyone from outside (including an ex-spouse) who interferes, is an OP and intruder in the new marriage.

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