Hi to all. Thursday is the day I go to start my D. I hate the thought of doing this, but WH leaves me no choice. He is so wrapped up in OW and her son that our family is no longer needed. He has been moved for 6 weeks now. I have done a lot of soul searching, trying to find answer of where we went wrong. At first I blamed myself, thinking I was a bad wife, but later realized through my hours of counsling, its my H that left this marriage, he would find any reason to blame me and not ammit he wanted someone else. I'm feeling better about myself and who i am as a person. Counsuler told me if its over and I'm ready to move forward I need to set boundries with H. I gave him a week to get his personal belongings and change his mailing. The week is up.. He called Friday to ask when he could get his things, I hung up, he called and left meesage so I had a close friend call and tell him anytime, its all in the barn. He never came to get it. What tdo I do know? Is he calling my bluf? Do I trash it? Why would he call and then not show up? Friends say he only wanted to start a fight and when I wouldn't talk to him he couldn't yell and blame me for our failure. Is he waiting for me to call him up to ask about it. When I talked to him last week I made it very clear that if he did not want to work on our marriage and wanted to still have a relationship with OW, he had 1 week to clear his stuff out. So why is it still here? Could someone please share their feelings on this. I don't want to be sitting on both sides of the fence forever, that is why I'm starting the D. I'm tired of this behavior from him, 2 yrs, last fall and now this time. NO MORE!!!!! I deserve better from a partner.
