Foreverhers

Sorry, I don't understand this new forum. I did as you suggested and logged me out. Now I'm not even able to read thread once I'm logged in! Maybe I'm not suppose to be here!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

My xh is not a Christian, and yes, I do think that God has answered me as far as reconcilitation.....although, I thought the answer was wait, not no. Guess that kinda tells you why I've waited so long.

I thought/prayed/hoped that if I gave my xh enough space and time that he's realize his mistake and want to be a family again. I believe that is what God would like as well. Unfortunately, over time my desire for that to happen has dwindled/ tried up, so perhaps the answer no is really the answer all along.

As far as me moving around and remarriage, no need to worry about me only dating Christian men.....that's the ONLY way. Plus the fact that I'm very, VERY opposed to premarital sex, so that even eliminates many Christians, too!

The only problem I do have is the verse that says woman need to remain single or be reconciled with their husbands. Every time I think about dating, that verse comes to the surface. I don't want to make another bad decision when it comes to dating/marriage. I want to be married again, but don't know if I **can** be married again. Make sense

THanks for your reply and patience as I try to figure this out. Very frustrating!

God Bless

Cheryl, the verse you are referring to is 1Cor 7:11. It refers to separation, not divorce. In the day that this was written, woman had little, if any, "right" to divorce their husbands. Husbands could divorce their wives for any reason if they found that their wives "displeased them" in almost any way. THAT is precisely what Jesus took on when the Jewish leaders tried to trap him and pit him "against" Moses.


Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
[color:"red"]"Haven't you read,"[/color] he replied, [color:"red"] that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."[/color]
"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
Jesus replied, [color:"red"]"Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."[/color] (Matt 19:3-9 NIV)

In short, your divorce due to his adultery "sets you free" to marry again without yourself commiting adultery. But the caution remains to "not be unevenly yoked."

The verse you keep thinking about is for MARRIED women who are separated from their husbands, not for women who have divorced because of their husband's adultery.

God bless.