posted the entire,long,complete story...but i think i lost it.i'll try to be brief,but i really need any thoughts
on this.also on preg/child,but not much response.

i am not married,but close enough.(it is/was in the very near future).my bf and i moved in together,after he pushed me into it.i was not ready,as i had unresolved issues still with my ex..so,short of the long is that i cheated early
on (in the first few months)and i told him recently,hoping we could move on,and be stronger.it backfired,i moved out.
we didn't speak for a week.during that week..he went to his old college town and slept with another girl.he then woke up the next morning telling her it was a mistake,and left.

(we were living apart for the next 3 months)and he never mentioned that when making me feel horrible for what i did to him.everything is still all my fault.

well,he asked me to come back home,and then told me that
he had done this,and that the woman in question is saying
that she is pregnant!I am devastated,and completely heart-broken.I just need some help in figuring out if i can deal with this.there are some issues though that I have a hard time swallowing...

he leaves the next morning,rejecting her.

she calls him a month later saying she is pregnant.he says okay," i will be a father to the child etc..."

they talk again (mom invites him to the future shower???)
he says he wants a dna test,

then she calls a week later saying she is bleeding,etc having problems..not out of the woods,may miscarry.(2 close calls already)

then he calls everyday for a week,leaving messages asking her to call him back..no response.

a week after that her 'mother' calls him and says not to contact her...it's too much pressure.that THEY will call
on occasion and let him know how things are going...WTF???

almost three months have passed..not one word..

he is being very distant(i think he is still really hurt).
and not being very open right now (he refuses to talk about it at all.)

he said he will respect her wishes,and he will not call her.
Why are HER wishes more important than mine????why can he not see MY pain???he tells me that i need to accept the fact that he is gonna have a child...but he refuses to think
she may not be telling the truth.am i in serious denial??
he thinks she is pregnant,and she's going to give the child up for adoption...i don't know.something doesn't seem right.she gave him no due date,none of the normal things pregnant people talk about.

he knows that if she is,and it's his..i may not stay with him...and i think if she contacted him,he would tell me.

anyone been here before?what can i expect?what should i do?

and one more question...why is he not showing me any affection???is he just rubber banding from all the confusion, or is this a red flag?