I don’t know when you should try to make your marriage special again, but I’m trying and wrote a letter to my WS. Its no 40 days past d-day, how long do I stay on plan A? When do you introduce changes, like this letter I’m writing:
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I love you with all of my heart and the last few weeks have been quite a challenge for both of us. You and I have had many challenges in our live that we have faced head on together. Like any of the other problems we have encountered in our life, we we’ll come out on top.
I know we are both committed to our marriage but I want us to be a special couple again and want to feel special, as I know you do.
I started to analyze all of the things I have said and what led us to where we are today, but it all comes down to it really isn’t going to change anything. I know from the bottom of my heart that I want to be married to you!
You also reminded me that you can’t do what someone wants if you don’t know what it is…That was a profound and excellent point. So I started to think what I want to make our marriage special again!
1. We should share our needs and desires with each other, for the most part we do this, but I think we can improve.
2. We should agree to what ever we decide mutually, if one of us disagrees with the other persons needs, comments or plans than the person who has a disagreement should explain their position. We both should state what things make us happy and those that make us sad and for the most part we know most of them.
3. Tell me what would make our marriage special to you? Tell me what I can do to make you feel special?
4. I wanted to hear you tell me that being faithful means more to you know than ever. “We should make a new commitment to each other.”
- This you actually already answered, when we where at a restaurant I mentioned to you that usually when one spouse has broken their VOW’s they become less meaning full and it becomes more likely that it could happen again.
- You replied “You know me better than that and I promise it well never happen again, I just couldn’t do it again after what has happened.”
- I told you that meant an awful lot to me.
5. Intimate honesty with no omissions, this one I know you have a hard time with, but I believe it to be the bedrock of what I thought our marriage was and want it to be.
- I would like you to be able to confide in me again!
- Point five is more important to me than any other!
Your,
Loving and Understanding
Husband
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How long do I stay on plan A?
When do you introduce changes?
