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#1445567 08/05/05 01:28 PM
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According to Kate Hudson that is.

"If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught."

Nothing like planting your head in the sand.

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Exactly! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Hey,
if that's your Low Expectation ......then there is Little surprise that it will become a self fulfilling prophesy.

Hollywood! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Sheeeesh.


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Another argument is that monogamy would be "unnatural".
Then not hitting someone when you're angry is unnatural too.
Or not running away when you're nervous.

And I wonder what the WS will think if the BS start applying the same rule. Mostly they suddenly want monogamy - for their partner, that is, hahah.

And how'z this for natural: did you ever see what a lion does when another male approaches his lionesses ?

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Hmmm...I always thought that affairs are the result of things NOT being so good at home (at least in the affairee's eyes). If things are good, there is less likely chance of an affair..in not improbable I would wager.

What's gonna happen if things aren't so good and it happens...is she gonna scream bloody murder?

Sounds moronic to me...and totally immature. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I guess it just shows that it doesn't take alot of common sense to make it at the box office.

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You have to consider she married a rock star. Not a group historically known for monogamy. They are free-love hippie types too. I'm kind of a hippy myself, but definitely not in to the "free-love" part.


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is that the lass married to Chris Robinson ?

Man I LOVED his old band ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I wonder if Kate would think the same if it happened to her ? I mean most BS change their minds on D-day.


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My W's friend - the one she's going 2 OOSP with her 2morrow, and a conference that RM has historically attended after that - told her recently:

"Well, if you're being accused, you might as well do the deed"

I don't think she had the whole story (like the "deed" has already been "done", multiple times over the past 14 years!), but at least my W acknowledged that she made many of the choices she made out of spite (including marrying me 2 spite my mom, apparently), and she no longer feels that's any way 2 live.

Sadly (but far from surprisingly), my W's friend has a tough time being away from her university professor H because she's afraid he might cheat on her with his s2dents. Maybe if she rethought that recommendation she made 2 my W, she could come up with some sort of POJA with her H that would keep her from being so afraid.

Kate Hudson is the daughter of Goldie Hawn, if I remember correctly. And if you remember one of my posts a few months back about an interview with Goldie and her H, Kurt Russell, on 60 minutes, I think you'll see that there's a whole lot of ma2ring that Kate needs 2 go through that she won't get from her mother and step father.

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Kate Hudson is the daughter of Goldie Hawn, if I remember correctly.
Goldie Hawn and Bill Hudson of "Hudsons Brothers" fame.
And if you remember one of my posts a few months back about an interview with Goldie and her H, Kurt Russell
They are not married.


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Chris is right. Kate Hudson's mother is Goldie Hawn, who is in a long-term relationship with (but not married to) Kurt Russell.

Apparently Kurt and Goldie have some sort of open "marriage" agreement -- and from several accounts, so do Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith (who are legally married, I believe.)

What a shame. Appearances are all that count with some folks, whether they're in Hollywood or not.
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Chris is right. I misspoke with the "H" moniker.

Here's my thoughts from my other thread about that interview on 60 minutes:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post2707943

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Not that this justifies it but in that type of enviornment you come in contact with a lot more people on a daily basis. Which basically means all the problems or flaws of your mate are magnified because you have so much more to compare against. Now if you are a truly strong and wise person (because truly in love won't do you no good once you start washing his dirty underwear, or hearing her burp and fart repeatedly) you will know that what you have is a great bond that can only be broken if one of you lets go. No matter how much better or different or more attractive these others you meet are your relationship should be deeper than that.

Unfortunately hollywoodians tend to be of the shallow sort so this type of thing is normal. I guess I am talking in circles but I guess what I mean is don't be surpised.

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my 2 cents worth...

If I'm not mistaken, Chris Robinson is also a recovering heroin addict, so he's gotten pretty darn good at spinning and weaving tales of deception. It's just sad that someone actually bought into that pile of happy horsesh*t.

But then again...

A Sparrow was too weak to fly south for the winter migration and found himself near frozen on the ground of a field,
The sparrow felt close to death's door and was in despair,
Thinking things couldn't possible get any worse, along came a cow and sure enough, it pooped on the tiny frozen sparrow,
The sparrow closed his eyes and waited for death to come,
To his surprise, the warmth of the fresh manure began to thaw him and make him feel stronger!
The tiny sparrow poked his head out of the pile of manure and sun began to shine,
The sparrow's hopes rose and he began to twitter and chirp,
Then a wolf came by and helped him out of the manure and before the wolf could eat him,
The sparrow spread his wings and flew up to nearby tree and began to sing,
At that moment, a hawk heard the sparrow's song and swooped down and captured the tiny sparrow for it's dinner!

The moral of the story is...not everyone who craps on you is your enemy, not everyone who gets you out of crap is your friend, and if your warm and happy in a pile of crap - keep your mouth shut!!

Sounds like Ms. Hudsen is warm and happy in her pile of crap perhaps she should learn to keep her mouth shut before a hawk comes along and ruins her day.


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Kate says, "She added: "I will not disrespect my husband and stray."

And then she says, "If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught."

So she thinks it's okay for him to disrespect her as long as she doesn't know about it?

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And then she says, "If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Yeah until she has kids or he cheats and leaves or she gets an STD from him. Oh brother. Her role models not being m'd really helped didn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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"So she thinks it's okay for him to disrespect her as long as she doesn't know about it? "

Kind of like "I can't see you, so don't pretend 2 be there."

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They already have a child. Ryder Russell, born earlier this year.

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I just don't get it. Divorce is already portrayed as being ok in the media's eyes and such thought has flowed into the minds of most Americans. A quick fix to a problem. Now open marriages will be considered the norm as well?


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Kate ought to have a chat with Jennifer Aniston.

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I think she's right for celebrities. Maybe it IS unrealistic in the promiscuous world of celebs ?

There aren't many famously monogamous celebs. Mel Gibson, Tom Hanks...Paul Newman ? erm ? Divided by the number of celebs in the world I bet theres a low number of monogamous folks.


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Bob, I really don't think celebrity can be blamed (or used as a excuse.) Groupies exist at truck stops and corporate offices, too.

And I think you're right about Tom Hanks and Paul Newman, but Mel Gibson is another story entirely.
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